IABU but help me regarding HV and 9 month check?

[Fatshionista]

I love my health visitor. Love love love her. Would marry her if DH didn't dislike her enough not to embrace her into our family. I do not like our nursery nurse. More than that, I think she's evil.

Anyway, bit of background. Lovely HV has been concerned about DD2's weight (almost 9 months old and 28lb with rolls and rolls on her) and has requested we visit our GP, keep a food diary and she'll check her at her 9 month check up (tomorrow).

NN has visited twice between HV visits with ideas that DD2 has illnesses, stating that I cannot be feeding her the food I claim I am and she must be on pizza and coke "and the such" and I'm not letting her exercise. I've explained and showed her our stock of food, our homemade jars, our follow on formula and how we make it etc but no, must be feeding her pizza and coke.

So DD1 has her 3 year review and DD2 has her 9 month review tomorrow at the same time at home with them both here. I am so stressed and worried that I'll be berated and judged again despite our food diaries and blood tests coming back normal from the GP that I just want to cancel it all. I won't, of course I won't but the mere sight of evil judgey NN makes me want to go all MN on her and do something extreme like ban her from my house while calling her a cunt with judgeypants.

:(. How do I stop being so bloody unreasonable?

If htere are concerns about your DD's weight/diet, why don't you make an appointment to see your GP and explain how you feel there.

You can send her to mine after she has been to freybean - DS2 is 8 months and weighs just a little bit less than your DD, then I can show her DS1 red book and he was exactly the same until he started moving around and started to move down the centiles again (He is now a slightly skinny 5 year old!)
Honestly, if she says anything tomorrow then I would have to say something to her and explain to the HV that due to her attitude you do not feel that it is appropriate that she is involved with your family in the future.

My dd weighed 26lbs at 26 weeks so frankly, I win. And she was still exclusively bf at that point.

Tell em to nob off.

There have always been children who were roly poly as babies. Go look at baby pictures from the 1930s. They didn't all grow up to be overweight children. The whole 'fight against childhood obesity' thing focuses really heavily on centiles and then BMI and ignores the natural weight fluctuations as children are growing. Yes, weight might indicate poor diet/ lack of exercise. When that's ruled out they should back off and see how the child develops, not accuse his mother of feeding him cake!

Why assume you are unreasonable?!? I think I'd be unreasonable if someone was coming round to my home and telling me I was lying to them and demanding blood samples!!

It is perfectly within your rights to not have them in your house and just visit your HV in the medical centre or wherever.

I can't help you but just wanted to say that my nephew is FAT and I mean fat, he's 10 months and nearly the same weight as my ds who's 20 months! He's fat. But he's beautiful and if anyone suggested he was too big or ate crap I'd tell them to jeff off. Which by the way you should do too!

Oh and my hv asked for a nursery nurse who was attached to the hv place to come round and teach me baby massage and check how I was doing when ds was young but that's cos she wanted to keep an eye on me cos I was getting close to pnd a d I think my hv was just too busy to come round as regularly as she did. My nursery nurse was lively btw.

YWBU to call her a cunt but YWB perfectly reasonable to question her about her comments in front of HV, say they made you feel uncomfortable and request she does not come out to see you again in light of that.

Hi, I have just looked in dd's red book to check this as I had so many issues with her weight like this. At 9 months she weighed 25lbs.
Now at just gone 2 she weighs 29! Honestly don't worry about it - it will just drop off her! Dd was bf til 6m and barely ate anything, never mind pizza after that til she was about a year! They treated me like a monster who was mistreating my child and I got pretty upset about it several times. Now i wish I hadn't bothered taking her really! I was a hugely chubby baby and a size 8 now :o even with all the hobnobs I eat.

On another note nn's have really very few qualifications. She is making wild assumptions based on her limited knowledge and media stereotypes that don't apply to babies!

Um, ditch her!! You don't have to let her in - she sounds neither qualified to comment on dietary issues nor intelligent enough to be of any use besides.

Take control - pick up the phone, say you don't want her involved any more and say why - her behaviour is unprofessional and of no use to man nor beast :)

Ring first thing and cancel it if its stressing you out that much. Explain really nicely that the HV is welcome to visit alone but that you wont be seeing the NN anymore as she is a cunt with judgeypants you find her manner unprofessional and unhelpful.

Probably someone rings about her every week she sounds like a waste of time and money.

My dd is 2 and 22lbs! No amount of pizza and coke healthy snacks and follow on milk will increase her weight gain. They are all so different.