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AIBU?

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To not feed the neighbours children?

34 replies

MugglesandLuna · 22/08/2011 14:03

Three children have come over from across the street to play with DS

I have already supplied them with an ice lolly, 2 drinks of juice and a bag of crisps each, but one of them has just said 'Im hungry, can I have some lunch'

AIBU to tell them to go home and get it. They are 10/11/12 and they live just across the street. They were here three days last week and I fed them each time.

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momobiker · 22/08/2011 14:04

YANBU

I tell the kids across the street to go home for food all the time. I am not a soup kitchen!

MardyBra · 22/08/2011 14:04

Yanbu. Send your kids over to their house with strict instructions to ask for lunch when they get there.

mistlethrush · 22/08/2011 14:05

Nope, send them home. You could send DS along with them 'for a change'

Next door's twins decided that they wanted to bake cakes - I sent them home to ask their mum - they came back saying mum was fine with them cooking buns - so I sent them home to do it Grin

Jackstini · 22/08/2011 14:05

Nope - send them home, with DS to be fed too

wearenotamused · 22/08/2011 14:08

Send them home - with DS in tow :P

lachesis · 22/08/2011 14:09

Why are you being such a mug? I couldn't afford to feed that many extra mouths 3x/week. Send them back.

MugglesandLuna · 22/08/2011 14:13

I cant afford it either :(

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MardyBra · 22/08/2011 14:15

Just. Say. No.

Seriously, just be assertive and say "sorry, you need to go home for lunch".

MajorB · 22/08/2011 14:16

At 2pm surely their mum should have already fed them, no wonder they wanted snacks etc.
What time did they turn up? & do you think she's deliberately sending them over at lunchtime because she can't be arsed to feed them & assumes you will?

Teachermumof3 · 22/08/2011 14:17

Honestly-how do people get into these situations!?

If someone asks something really cheeky-say no! What on earth can the or their parents say to you about it!!?

lachesis · 22/08/2011 14:18

If you can't afford it, why do it? There literally isn't the money to buy that much extra food in our budget, so I send kids who do this home.

MardyBra · 22/08/2011 14:18

Maybe their mum is starting a thread (on Netmums?) congratulating herself on fobbing off her three kids on the neighbour once again.

MugglesandLuna · 22/08/2011 14:21

Well its 2 parents because its a brother and a sister and then another little boy.

They have been here since 9.15am but the boy has just gone home, hoping the other two will get the hint.

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Lucyinthepie · 22/08/2011 14:23

Don't wait for them to get the hint, just bloody tell them! Say "OK, I think it's time you went home for lunch now. Bye."

MadamDeathstare · 22/08/2011 14:23

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ZZZenAgain · 22/08/2011 14:24

say, yes it is almost lunchtime, you'd best go back now and if you feel like it, you can come over and play again after lunch, or your dc will be over after lunch (even better!).

MadamDeathstare · 22/08/2011 14:26

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lachesis · 22/08/2011 14:34

Hoping they'll take the hint? It's your house. 'We're having our lunch now, it's time you went home.'

DoMeDon · 22/08/2011 14:38

YANBU but I know I'd do it - I'd be happy to. We're all different though and if you can't afford it, that's the end of it.

fabanflabby · 22/08/2011 15:11

Ive been caught out so many times and its always the teenage friends of my DS. They will eat everything and anything and they dont ask! So rude.

I did have a laugh the other week though when I was cleaning all the last bits of out of date food out of the cupboard and fridge and left it all on the side. Went outside to hang the washing and the vultures had eaten the lot when i got back into the kitchen.
They obviously thought i was leaving the food out for them to eat!

I havent seen them since!

maybe thats the trick?

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 22/08/2011 15:42

What are potstickers, MadameDeathstare?

spiderpig8 · 22/08/2011 15:49

You don't hint! They're kids they won't get it! You tell them (politely but firmly)

NorfolkBroad · 22/08/2011 16:24

YANBU hope you have sent them home by now!