to wish I had told him to EFF OFF !!!

[GossipWitch]

I was in a shop earlier with my ds1 who has learning, social and behavioural difficulties (school speak for ASD but I have no diagnoses) and was asking for a toy over and over again, wanting me to say yes he could have it, when one of my best friend's estranged father, told my son that if I've said no I mean no, the hypocrite, and i mean hypocrite in the fact he has never hung around to bring up any of his many children, so there fore has no right to comment on my ethics what-so-ever! then turned round to me and said in and albeit slimy manner " don't you just hate children like that " and I really felt like slapping him across the face and shouting "well no actually, I don't hate children like that, because that is my child you are talking about, how dare you judge him when you don"t even know him" . What I actually did was give him a glance of utter disbelief and told ds1 we were going to the till now. I wonder if I should have acted in the way I wanted to.

cognito the mother was dealing with the child, the man wasn't trapped on a train journey or sharing the same house as the child, he was in a shop. He could have been served and just left and not decided to be an interfering useless rude arse.

Just how much influence do you think ignorant rude feckless father's can have on a stranger's child in a shop?

Myfriend On that occasion the mother should have stopped him Aspergers or not as he was throwing apples at you and that can't be tolerated. I'm glad you are tolerant and understanding but at the same time you shouldn't have to put up with that.

What did mother do?

She did tell him off - but he was a bit out of control. It's hard to explain but he is really difficult - if you had been there you would not judge her!

At that point I did think: something else is going on here, and was glad when my friend brought it up later.

Sounds like the lad was in what I call a "meltdown" when you just have to wait for it to pass though throwing things is not acceptable. Good for you for keeping an open mind.