I had a massive argument with my mum last night.
And my dad has just rang me this morning to say I need to either call her or text her to 'offer an olive branch' he said.
She is generally a bit of a cow.
She doesn't really love my dad, you never see her giving any signs of affection.
Last night he said I love you to her, and she just looked at him as though he was mad.
So I asked why do you never say it back, her reply was, You don't need to say these things all the time.
My DS is 2, and she went into the toilet and he opened the door, so she said shut the door. My dad stupidly maybe, did the same thing as DS as a joke and she pretty much exploded.
Starting shouting and screaming, calling my dad names.
I asked her to calm down, all this time she is still in the toilet behind the door.
She said, 'You wonder why I don't say I love you to your dad, its because most of the time I fucking don't.'
I was very calm, didn't shout but explained to her she should leave if she feels like that.
And she says she can't leave.
She kept going on and on, and normally everyone backs down and leaves her to shout and get angry but this time I didn't.
She said to me she would remember this, that she hasn't forgotten how me and DP moved out of their house in a 'strop' when she had called us both useless when I had a child under a month old.
In the end I just left it at that, and she went off to do her horses on her own, still ranting and raving.
She really annoyed me as everything in her life is so bad to her, my dad does nothing but love her and she seems to hate him for it.
She can go from being fine and lovely to an exploding bomb within seconds.
She has fallen off horses twice really badly and hit her head, my dad seems to think it was the second hit that turned her into this monster.
So my dad rang this morning to say she was in state, upset and slept in the spare room.
And that I need to talk to her, not apologize but to hold out an olive branch, in his words.
I don't know what to say to her?
Was IBU to have argued with her?