Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To be beside myself with happiness that I've finally bonded with my twin boys!:)

44 replies

doradaisy · 17/08/2011 22:24

They just turned a year today.

It was without a shadow of a doubt the toughest year of my life.

Also have a DD, age 3 plus a husband with a very busy job.

The boys were premature with jaundice, on 3 hourly feeds (that lasted 2 hours 50 mins), faced tandem breastfeeding, supplemented with bottles which we eventually had to wash, 16 bottles every 24 hours in between the 15 mins break between feeds, entire family getting swine flu over Christmas, many nights of tears, soul searching, doubting the point of anything, stressy fights with DD, weeks going showerless in my dressing gown, days going on 20 mins sleep (honest), hours going foodless, feeling like I'd mount everest to climb and wondering how in god's name I'd get there.

Regret at not having the time to read to them, just hold them, play with them and sing to them as I was always distracted with the other twin, my head was stuck in a washing machine or running to my DD to help with toilet training.

Wondering if I was doing a good job.

Having a glass of wine now on their birthday while all in bed.

This is not a ranty/moany post, I just wanted to say that my boys, husband, DD and me survived. I didn't think I'd get there, but they're doing great, are smiley happy little men.

We did it!

We got there in the end!

OP posts:
LynetteScavo · 17/08/2011 22:25
Smile

Well done.

You've made me well up. Blush

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 17/08/2011 22:25

Well done! Made hormonal me shed a tear... :)
Happy birthday boys!! xx

BoattoBolivia · 17/08/2011 22:25

Wow- respect and congratulations!

Scarletbanner · 17/08/2011 22:25

YA Definitely NBU! Well done all of you. Happy Birthday Twins!

Portofino · 17/08/2011 22:25

Grin Blimey - much respect!

SnapesMistress · 17/08/2011 22:26

Well done, not sure I'd have come out the other end :)

celebmum · 17/08/2011 22:26

Well done!!

You deserve a second glass! Smile

Gincognito · 17/08/2011 22:28

Wow, you are an actual proper superhero! Enjoy your wine :)

RedAmberGreen · 17/08/2011 22:28

They say nothing worth having is easy, well done Smile

LincolnBiscuit · 17/08/2011 22:28

I too have welled upa t your discription.

Happy birthday to them and well done to you, amazing job. Not the existence of the twins but getting them and you and your whole family through the year.

nickschick · 17/08/2011 22:28

A year is nothing in the space of a lifetime - you cared for their fundamental needs and now your gonna enjoy the rest of their lives Smile well done and congrats.

battherat · 17/08/2011 22:29

Well done you. Know it's not very mumsnet but sending you big kisses x

catinboots · 17/08/2011 22:29

Well done and happy birthday to your perfect twinnies!!

catinboots · 17/08/2011 22:30

And a big cuddle for their big sister!! X

MeconiumHappens · 17/08/2011 22:30

well done, they're lucky to have you

SouthGoingZax · 17/08/2011 22:31

HUGE congratulations.

I too drank wine and cried on my twins' first birthday, with relief that we'd survived, with thanks that they had made it through and were such lovely boys, with joy that the first year was over.

Their second birthday is coming up in a few weeks and I can absolutely, definitely say that for us, year one was the killer.. This year has been a dream in comparison.

ohfuschia · 17/08/2011 22:34

That's a really touching post - you deserve that wine and a whole lot of other things besides.

squeakytoy · 17/08/2011 22:34

Well done!!! I am fairly sure I could not do that without having a nervous breakdown!! :)

As for regretting not being able to read to them.. I am pretty certain they will never hold that against you!!!

A friend of mine had twins on the day me and my husband started dating. They are 11 years old now.. and both are close to 6ft tall.... time does fly!

doradaisy · 17/08/2011 22:36

Thank you all for kind words!! Am welling up again now :)

Just to say, I know some mothers have it tougher with sick children, etc, so want to put that on record too.

southgoingzax well done you! Am so glad you can appreciate the experience. Congrats on upcoming twins 2nd birthday!

OP posts:
LRDTheFeministDragon · 17/08/2011 22:42

Well done! Smile

It's lovely to read this.

prolificwillybreeder · 17/08/2011 23:05

I have a one year old and a 4 week old and heck it's tough going right now.
I read your post and my woes are nothing but petty compared to what you have on your plate! You deserve a medal. Congratulations on your happy brood.

A toast to you! Grin

griphook · 17/08/2011 23:11

I take my hat of to you, you sound like a fab mum.

congrats and well done

FellatioNelson · 17/08/2011 23:11

My sister had a 17 month gap between her DS1 and DS2, then twins exactly (to the day) three years later. She barely left the house for 5 years! Much respect. You did it! Congratulations on your lovely family, your intact marriage, and your eventual peace and sanity. Grin

AgentZigzag · 17/08/2011 23:16

If you can do all that, you can do anything Smile

Happy birthday doras little twins.

emmanumber3 · 17/08/2011 23:25

Well done Grin.

If you can survive all of that & come out smiling then you can do anything. Go on - finish the bottle, you deserve it! Grin