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AIBU?

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To not accept this free kindle?

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LiegeAndLief · 17/08/2011 19:47

A good friend got a kindle recently, and absolutely loved it. Her dd managed to get hold of it and the screen got cracked (not witnessed so not sure exactly how it happened!). Friend was distraught and ordered new kindle immediately. There was a line across the old kindle screen but it was still readable, so she offered to lend it to me so I could peruse her vast collection of fanfic improve my mind with literature.

Unfortunately, the screen got worse and after I charged it it became completely unreadable. I googled "cracked kindle screen" to see if there was anything I could do to reset it and discovered that the kindle screen apparently cracks easily and Amazon were being very generous about replacing them when under warranty.

So friend rang Amazon and they are sending a new one over, very few questions asked. She wants to give it to me. I said I couldn't possibly accept it. She said she couldn't possibly accept any money for it.

To avoid drip feeding - she has a lot more disposable income than me. I would like a kindle but can't afford one - I have mentioned asking for a reconditioned one for Christmas. I know she is being incredibly kind but they are worth over £100 and I feel I cannot possibly just take it from her! She is adamant she won't accept any money at all.

WWYD?

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wompoopigeon · 17/08/2011 20:14

What else is she gong to do with it? She doesn't want two kindles and it sounds like she can't be arsed to sell it.
Accept gracefully and then do a favour or two for her. That's friendship.

SE13Mummy · 17/08/2011 20:17

Accept her kind gift and log on to Amazon and send her a thank you giftcard that she can use to buy a couple of books for her own Kindle.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 17/08/2011 20:18

Accept it and offer a ton of babysitting in return

FabbyChic · 17/08/2011 20:18

Amazon are fantastic however you would have to return the faulty item. They wouldn't send a new one unless you were sending the old one back.

Accept it with the grace it is offered.

FabbyChic · 17/08/2011 20:19

Buy her some flowers as a thank you she be more than happy

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LiegeAndLief · 17/08/2011 20:28

Some great ideas about what I could do in return, thanks. Is this a unanimous AIBU ?!

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brighthair · 17/08/2011 20:36

Take it
I give friends things because I like buying/giving thoughtful stuff to people not because I expect things back

amicissima · 17/08/2011 21:53

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fluffles · 17/08/2011 21:55

accept it - what's she going to do with two? it will just sit and gather dust if you don't accept it.

purplepidjin · 17/08/2011 22:01

What you give back is your friendship. A listening ear when she's down, a lift when she's stuck, a smile when she needs it. That's worth a damn sight more than some bit of electronic wizardry.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 17/08/2011 22:02

You know yourself if she's a true friend and from what you've said, she is. So you also know that she's doing this because she knows you want one and she would like you to have one and not with any ulterior motives. So accept, say thank you very much, buy her a little something and get reading! :)

RoseC · 17/08/2011 22:02

YANBU and make her some bramble vodka in return. Thread here.

InTheNightKitchen · 17/08/2011 22:04

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superjobee · 17/08/2011 22:08

take it :)

i am uber generous to one of my friends. whenever i have a bit of cash spare i force her to dinner, nights out, buy her presents etc she is the greatest friend in every way and i like to spoil her. she tries incredibly hard to refuse and has managed maybe twice in our 10 year friendship

Lonnie · 17/08/2011 22:08

Take it if it wasnt for you she wouldnt have known she could get a replacement. Buy her a few vouchers for Amazon as a thank you fi you want :)

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LiegeAndLief · 18/08/2011 20:33

Well, I have taken your wonderful advice and have a brand new kindle sitting upstairs (sadly have to work this evening or would be reading it now!). Friend refused all offers of any kind of compensation, so I have made her agree to it being a loan until she lets me do or pay for something! Will maybe make her an enormous cake - where can I get a picture of Robert Pattinson on rice paper?!

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LadyBeagleEyes · 18/08/2011 20:40

There's a very old saying that "it's better to give than receive".
And though I love to get gifts (doesn't everybody), I love giving someone a gift that I know they'll love.

I bet your friend is feeling very good at the moment

NorksAreMessy · 18/08/2011 20:46

I get such a buzz out of giving presents that I know will be really appreciated, and you have already shown how much you love this.
Accept, be grateful and you have given her a nice warm feeling of doing something kind.

DizzyKipper · 19/08/2011 09:14

Have you ever heard of www.pimpthatsnack.com/projects.php LiegaAndLief? Maybe you could make her a giant version of her favourite sweet? My OH and I pimped a curly wurly (it was 1.2m long) for his best mate moving into the house during university. It's very fun to do and she would probably love it

lurkerspeaks · 19/08/2011 10:28

Take it in the spirit with which it is offered.

I've had duplicates of some expensive items recently. I was delighted to be able to pass them onto friends who could use them.

Theoretically I could have sold them via ebay but that is a total hassle and I don't really need the money it would generate. I was much happier to pass on a bit of goodwill. After all what goes around comes around.

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LiegeAndLief · 19/08/2011 15:06

DizzyKipper, pimpthatsnack sounds amazing! Will check it out.

I did look after another friend's baby for an hour this afternoon so she could sleep, but I'm not sure that's enough good karma for a kindle yet...

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CurrySpice · 19/08/2011 16:44

I'm sure it will give her real pleasure to give it to you so it would be rude to refuse

GrownUpNow · 19/08/2011 16:51

Aw, how nice. I am glad you accepted it. It's lovely that you have such a generous friend, friendship is priceless though, I wouldn't expect anything back for a gift like that, I'd probably be giving it because of how much I appreciate the friend in question.

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