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to think about putting a lock on our bedroom door?

39 replies

wisecamel · 16/08/2011 21:33

With dcs of 10 and 8 and our bedroom door on their way to the bathroom, I find myself keeping half an eye on the door during rare moments of intimacy Blush. Just telling them not to come in seems really creepy and bleugh and would probably make them more likely to sneak in anyway. BUT I have a fear of terrible accidents/fires/younameit disasters happening if we did this, or worse, their 'we know you locked the door last night' looks at breakfast. AIBU?

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biddysmama · 16/08/2011 22:57

this house had locks on all the bedroom doors... on the outside tho we were a bit Hmm before taking them all off

HauntedLittleLunatic · 16/08/2011 23:02

The door wedge seems like an excellent idea and Much more discreet that a permanent lock....so no-one need ever know.

HauntedLittleLunatic · 16/08/2011 23:03

And Fwiw when dd3 was little we put a high latch on the outside of dtds bedroom door. This was to keep dd3 out and was only ever used when there was no-one in the room (despite much begging from dtds when they wanted peace!!!)

inchoccyheaven · 16/08/2011 23:10

We were actually thinking of putting a lock on our bedroom door too for those rare moments too Grin Our boys are 9 and 11 so understand your need Wink

cjbartlett our boys are awake until late and as DH goes to bed at 9pm as he gets up early we can't often wake until they are asleep otherwise those moments would be even rarer Shock Grin

BaronessBomburst · 16/08/2011 23:16

The bedroom doors in our house have all got locks. I've removed the keys though as DS is just at the height and age to start fiddling with things.
Wouldn't help us anyway - we co-sleep. Grin

applepies · 16/08/2011 23:17

small bolt here

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wisecamel · 16/08/2011 23:18

I'm warming to the door wedge idea as being a bit more discrete. inchoccyheaven I just think there's something about this age group - they're old enough to still be awake when we come to bed, but too young to appreciate that we might want privacy.

When they're older, we'll be fine as they'd be so appalled at the idea, they'll probably run screaming down the street at the first inkling. Then we can lock them out.

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QueenStromba · 16/08/2011 23:23

A door wedge is a great idea and you can even use it to wedge your door open during the day to let air circulate in case they see it and get curious.

Step · 17/08/2011 08:10

EttiKetti... thank God I'm not the only one. Kids knock, but come in most times anyhow!

sunnydelight · 17/08/2011 09:04

We have a small bolt too and have been glad of it on a few occasions Grin

I put a high up bolt on the outside of DS1s room once to keep visiting younger children out of his room while he was at school (I have big gaps). I had a friend whose young son was obsessed with DS1's stuff and she was pretty lax in supervising him to the point where it was affecting our friendship so I either had to do something about it or stop inviting them round.

ProcrastinatorGeneral · 17/08/2011 11:40

We had a bolt in our old house, it was already installed when we moved in. Used rarely to be fair.

Nothing in this house, but then no need of it really. Have considered putting a hooke and eye type latch on the top of my daughter's bedroom door to prevent my son raiding her room, but she is fine with him going and reading her books so we decided not to.

Privacy is important. There's no shame in wanting private space. My room is mine. The kids know it is not for them to sleep in, play in or faff in. They know if they want to come in they have to ask.

Good luck with finding something that works for you.

GattoRosso · 17/08/2011 11:50

I SO wish my parents had put a lock on their bedroom door. Especially as, for some reason, when I was small they had got me into the routine of using their en-suite bathroom, instead of the perfectly usable guest bathroom at the other end of the landing (wasn't old enough at the time to figure it out for myself). I have been scarred for life now!

inchoccyheaven · 18/08/2011 11:51

wisecamel, DH and I have seperate rooms so I only really go into his room ( comfier bed lol ) when we are going to have sex. I am just waiting for the day when they realise that Blush and run screaming down the road Grin At the moment I just say I am spending sometime with him or we are talking so always wary that they will come in at a crucial moment !

DS1 did come in once when he was about 5 yrs old and we dive under the covers. He then came back with a torch and asked what we were doing. I said Daddy was doing excercises Blush Grin

L8rAllig8r · 18/08/2011 11:57

Arrrgh, I have just remembered that my parents used to have a bolt on their door when we were younger. Never crossed my mind why at the time, and had totally forgotten until now! Could have happily gone the rest of my life not remembering that.

But surely that's the easiest solution, and just unlock it again when you're done.

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