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in thinking the GP receptionist was out of order?

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RalphGnu · 16/08/2011 09:27

DS has had a bad cold for the last few days and it sounds like he's got a chest infection (very wheezy, rattly chest, short of breath). He's had this a couple of times so I know he needs antibiotics.

Phoned the health centre this morning and while describing my son's symptoms with the receptionist was halfway through a sentence when she barked "Hang on!" and had a muffled discussion with someone about how much milk and sugar she wanted and in which mug, does anyone have a paracetamol etc.

Carried on describing the symptoms and she again interrupted me to say "You know you don't need to bring your child in every time he coughs, don't you?"
I told her yes, I was aware of that and if she'd let me finish a sentence I could tell her about his previous history of chest infections and that I thought it was important he be seen today.

After a long-suffering sigh she said he could be seen at 9:00 at the surgery 2 miles up the road (this was at 8:45). When I explained I wouldn't be able to get there for that time she very sarcastically said "If it's soooo serious, you'll get there, won't you?"

At this point I snapped and asked to speak to the practice manager, was told she would be in at 9am and did I want the appointment or not? I said again it wouldn't be possible to make it at that time (I don't have a car and DS was still in his pj's). She told me that was all they had and I would have to ring back tomorrow morning to make another appointment that fitted in with my schedule!

I actually can't believe the way I was spoken to, I am fucking fuming. I've spoken to this woman before at reception, she's very rude. Should I report her?

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 16/08/2011 11:21

Fanjo... Our receptionists can be 'dragons' but really, the only time I've witnessed it is when a patient, thinking the rules aren't for them, gets stroppy with them. I've always been polite, firm and received the same back, which I'm very happy with.

In my experience, you can challenge a genuinely rude receptionist at the time of the incident and they'll apologise. I do think they're at the sharp end of irritable customers in pain/panic and that can make things more fraught than they would be in another work arena.

fedupofnamechanging · 16/08/2011 11:21

I am quite happy to describe symptoms to the receptionist. The ones at my doctors are lovely and are trying to help you get seen by the best person in the shortest time. But not all receptionists are lovely. As with most jobs you sometimes get stroppy rude people who shouldn't be dealing with people, but should be consigned to a cellar sorting files!

pommedechocolat · 16/08/2011 11:29

Fanjo - That is what happens at my surgery, have never had a problem with emergency apps for dd the 2/3 times I've needed it. Soon as you say ill little one you get an emergency app.

BreadCrumbsandButterBeans · 16/08/2011 12:25

Don't assume receptionists are being nosey when they ask what the symptoms are. It is part of their job.

Because the receptionist asked about symptoms when my grandad called for a appointment for my gran once, she recognised that my gran was having a stroke and called an ambulance. Her prompt response helped my gran to make a full recovery. Smile

That's not to say the receptionist in the op should have responded with sarcasm at the child's symptoms. That's really not her place.

PonceyMcPonce · 16/08/2011 12:42

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RalphGnu · 17/08/2011 11:26

Hello! Well, blow me, I got an apology from the receptionist and it was all rather embarrassing as she was practically frogmarched to me in the doctor's office. I actually ended up feeling quite sorry for her as she seemed to be on the verge of tears, explaining she had an awful headache, had hardly slept with her daughter being ill, felt terrible for being so rude.

Ended up mumbling "That's quite alright, don't worry about it, we all have those days, etc etc". Was very awkward as the practice manager and the GP were both in the room too. I'm still cross, but having accepted her apology, I'm not going to take it any further. Maybe I'm too soft, I don't know.

Lying, if DS had been desperately ill I would've carried him 20 miles over hot coals. He'd eaten his breakfast and was his usual self, so was happy with him being seen at some point that morning, rather than a panicked rush involving taxis and pyjamas when there was no need.

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knobbysEx · 17/08/2011 11:38

Yes, report her. I've had the same sort of attitude on the phone when I was quite distressed at some test results I'd got back. I just said "You need to get some training on your telephone manner" and hung up really upset.

I find, if anyone pisses you off, just saying "Can I just take your name please?" makes rude people suddenly become much more crawly professional

knobbysEx · 17/08/2011 11:39

Ooh, sorry, didn't read all thread Blush

Mumwithadragontattoo · 17/08/2011 11:40

I think the practise have reacted very well in getting her to apologise. Very sensible they don't want this to escalate. And I think you have behaved graciously and appropriately. Hopefully the receptionist will think twice before being rude to people in future.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 17/08/2011 11:47

RalphGnu... I'm sure you would have, didn't mean to sound as snippy as my post did. You'd probably worked out your options anyway by the time you posted. Hope your boy is soon on the mend.

Alikersh · 17/08/2011 12:07

I've worked as a doctors receptionist before and it's a bloody hard job at times (although she was completely out of order and obviously recognised that eventually)! If a receptionist has asked for symptoms when someone phones asking for an emergency appointment it's usually because they do have some kind of triage system - in our surgery we had a number of questions to ask to see if the patient needed to go straight to A&E (such as meningitis, heartattack or stroke). Any queries went straight to the doctors and they would make the final decision as to whether the patient should be seen straight away.
Children would get an emergency appointment on the day but to be quite honest people DO try it on - and can get incredibly rude when they don't get their own way. I was verbally abused, physically threatened and told that I would be fired by patients who weren't given appointments on demand. The general attitude to doctor's receptionists seems to be "bloody receptionists" at the moment, they're just trying to do their job - as set down by the practice manager and senior partners of the practice.
Hoping your boy's on the mend now. xx.

zukiecat · 17/08/2011 14:53

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