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Original poster

to giggle at the lengths my friends will go to to save money

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elisadoeslittle · 15/08/2011 22:56

our friends are getting married. The man is stupidly cheap (he once asked me to go sparingly with his bicarbonate of soda which Id borrowed, because its 80p in the shops!)

Anyway, they have managed to avoid spending any money on the wedding. Its being paid for by his Dad who is very wealthy, guests are forking out to go on holiday to the venue which is all inclusive so the wedding breakfast is part of the guests deal. Theres no reception, just staying in the all inclusive restaurant. No bridesmaids, and hes wearing a suit he already has. But our friends have to pay for the cake. They want a cupcake for each person as the wedding cake. We sourced them for £40. Thats too much so shes making them.

BUT. They are making the cakes 3 days before they go and they wont keep plus they will be in transit. They dont care what they look like (have actually said this) and are having the cakes inside white boxes. So the cake will be a pile of boxes.

I giggled at this because its so ridiculously tight. Am I a cow. Why not just buy a cake if thats the only thing you have to pay for?! The cake will be a pile of boxes with off cake inside?!

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CalmaLlamaDown · 15/08/2011 23:25

YABU, they sound v sensible in the current financial climate. Spending thousands for what boils down to just one day of your life ain't compulsary. Don't go to the wedding if you're going to judge and take the piss.

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elisadoeslittle · 15/08/2011 23:27

I think you say that because secretly you like sweaty cakeboxes, Calma ;)

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maighdlin · 15/08/2011 23:27

surely though they will have to pay extra to bring them on the flight thus negating any money saved by buy some when they are over there?

piprabbit · 15/08/2011 23:28

Calma - just because the couple are spending thousands doesn't mean that their poor guests aren't paying through their noses.

If they were really worried about the financial climate they would have gone for a proper 1940s austerity wedding.

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elisadoeslittle · 15/08/2011 23:29

Thats what I said to them, maighdlin! They havent thought it through at all.

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DontGoCurly · 15/08/2011 23:31

Jeez scabby bastards !!!! Where's the joy I ask ya !

MadamDeathstare · 15/08/2011 23:33

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strictlovingmum · 15/08/2011 23:38

CalmaLlamaDown, are you referring to the wedding or 80p bicarbonate soda?Grin, Where do you draw the line?

saladsandwich · 15/08/2011 23:46

so basically they aren't paying for this weddin, every bugger else is, i like their style! (apart from the mangy cakes)

piprabbit · 15/08/2011 23:46

bugger - aren't spending thousands.

Sorry.

aurynne · 15/08/2011 23:47

I would help them save even more by not bothering to go myself.

knittynoodle · 15/08/2011 23:48

We keep saying cakes. I think we should be referring to rocks. Which is what they'll be by the time they get eaten. Cheeky feckers!

knittynoodle · 15/08/2011 23:50

Can I add that the blatant disregard for good cake is what hurts me the most. Grin

Kewcumber · 15/08/2011 23:54

how do you not go sparingly with bicarb of soda? Confused Is there any recipe that goes wild with bicarb?

toomuchmonthatendofthemoney · 16/08/2011 00:06

honestly, some weddings i've been to, the only saving grace has been being able to plunge my sorry mug into a big bit of yummy cake .. to be denied even that little bit of hedonism is so, so, so sad ... not my kind of people at all Wink

LolaRennt · 16/08/2011 00:24

CalmaLlamaDown making people shell out to come to your wedding, then not feeding them is not clever in an economic crisis.Its nasty. They could have stayed home and had a registry wedding and a knees up at the pub. I don't want to pay for some fuckers wedding.

MadamDeathstare · 16/08/2011 00:32

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LDNmummy · 16/08/2011 00:40

Yikes! Shock

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 16/08/2011 00:48

Eureka moment: iced rock cakes with the guests' names inscribed on indivdual mini-hacksaws as a momento of the big day. I can see it being the next trend.

iscream · 16/08/2011 06:50

That is a very silly idea, hope they can pack them in dry ice or something.
What happens with a destination all inclusive wedding? I have never been to one. Does each guest buy some sort of package set up via a travel agent or something? Does it cover plane fare, hotel and then they pay for the wedding meal as well?
Or not for the wedding meal?
Explain to this un worldy person who never goes out of her own country please.

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 16/08/2011 07:02

If they are going to be in boxes,( which must be costing a bit), im suprised they are bothering to put anything in them Grin

didyouseewhatshedid · 16/08/2011 08:53

I fail to see how people like this can ever relax if all they are ever thinking about is the cost of things - the tight fuckers.

mollymole · 16/08/2011 09:01

i know a couple who have made being tight an artform, they have been married 27 years and get meaner as they get older - he sent tickets out for a ' surprise function' at £10 each - via his works e-mail and then when we had all paid for them announced that the surprise was his 50th birthday party !!!
i was so embarrased in a supermarket - when she weighs fruit/veg etc on the pricing scales she holds up from the weight part a couple of apples or carrot etc so that it underweighs and charges less
they also ask for extra sachets of condiments when they eat out (starter to share - with 1 lot of fries) and collect the unused ones of tables to take home to use

Snuppeline · 16/08/2011 09:11

I'd never go to such a wedding, not because of anything else other than that I detest poor hosts! Unfortunately my brother decided to have a similar wedding where he and his bride went on a packaged holiday and invited people to come. They then had a table reserved in a restaurant. Meal in restaurant was paid by them but of course the flights & hotel and other expenses for the week were down to us. If he wasn't my brother I'd never have gone at all. Sure the day itself was nice and we did have a good time while there but I would not fork out £5000 for anyone elses wedding that's for sure. Heck I could have got married myself for that!

TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 16/08/2011 09:13

Be happy for them that they are so compatible Grin