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Original poster

to have let DS poo outside the doctor's?

68 replies

TheMonster · 15/08/2011 17:08

DS and I had walked to the Post Office this morning, which takes about 20 minutes.
All that is on this little parade of shops is the Post Office, a small Boots and a doctor's surgery.
As we apporached the shops, DS (4) suddenly annouced he had a tummy ache and needed a poo.
No problem, thinks I, there's a doctor's surgery. It's not my doctor. I went in and asked the receptionist (a young lad) if we could please use the loo. By this time, DS was doing the toilet dance. The lad said no we couldn't.
We ran accross the road to Boots and asked and the lady was very apologetic and said it wasn't possible because of the drugs (fair enough). DS was unusually polite and said 'I'll be careful' which made us all smile, but is irrelevant.
DS was about to explode so we dashed back to the Dr's and I took him behind a bush which was sort of the side of the building, held him up and he went. It was just watery so no chance of picking it up as you would a dog poo.
When he had finished and we turned around, I realised there was a narrow but tall window into the waiting room (which was empty) and the lad at the reception may well have seen.
We walked off quickly.
Was I wrong? Was there an alternative?

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changeforthebetter · 15/08/2011 17:24

But it wasn't a poo - it was diarrhoea! The poor kid (and you) could hardly help it. It sounds like a jobsworth receptionist. I can understand the Boots thing but not in an NHS property. The receptionist was an officious twit. In ours you can just swan in off the street and use the loo without anyone's permission

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TheMonster · 15/08/2011 17:25

I wish I had let them know now! I should have gone back in and said to the guy, 'sorry about the diarrhoea outside, but DS had an accident as you wouldn't let us use the loos'.

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Original poster
TheMonster · 15/08/2011 17:26

Maybe I should ring them...

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lockets · 15/08/2011 17:26

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pinklaydee · 15/08/2011 17:28

Don't worry about it, you were discreet, and well done for avoiding a pants-soiling episode!

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TheMonster · 15/08/2011 17:28

Lol!
The waiting room was empty, sadly. (so we wouldn't have even been occupying the loo when a patient might want it)

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pigletmania · 15/08/2011 17:30

I had to do this with dd age 4, park no toilets, nowhere near home. She did a poo behind a bush, she had eaten some grapes and prunes the previous day so was runny, bossy I could pick it up, and noway of removing it, so put some leaves on it and left it. Next time will carry my potette. This is the first time it's happened.

pigletmania · 15/08/2011 17:32

Meant it was messy and could not pick it up.

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 15/08/2011 17:33

Your poor son. I would complain to the doctors, I don't care if you are registered there or not, it's not really a private building is it.

pigletmania · 15/08/2011 17:37

No dettol or water on me either. Your poor ds, what an ignorant jobswoth

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TheMonster · 15/08/2011 17:51

I might send an email.

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Ivortheengine8 · 15/08/2011 18:04

BOE I actually wrote a letter of complaint to the said surgery after my experience. Never heard anything back though :( Maybe try contacting the practice manager. (although some of them are just as bad!

nosexpleaseimpregnant · 15/08/2011 18:13

Dr's receptionist's are, IMO, the spawn of the devil.
They seem to have this idea that they are above all and beyond and have some automatic right to treat pt's as 2nd class citizens. For some reason they need to know the in's and out's of a ducks arse just so they agree to give you an appointment. When they ask 'what's the problem?' when I ring for an appointment I tell them (as politely as I can muster) 'I don't know, that's why I need to see a doctor' and when they reply 'what are your symptoms I reply 'that's for my doctor to know'.
I would have said bollocks to him and used the toilet anyway, after all what's he going to do once DS has actually crapped? Try to shove it back where it came from? What a knob.
Oh and there is an old law from hundreds of years ago that states it is unlawful to refuse the use of your toilet to a member of the public if they request to use it. This law is still actually in effect Wink

DogsBestFriend · 15/08/2011 18:16

I'm saving this thread so I can link to it next time someone posts one of the inevitable weekly MN dog-shit threads because if I said I'd let my German Shepherd shit by the GP's surgery and walked away without clearing it up I'd be (rightly) flamed to a cinder. :o

To be fair to you though, why the fuck a doctor's surgery wouldn't allow a child to use the toilet is beyond me. They were unreasonable to forbid it, you were unreasonable to at least not have cleared up after your child.

AuntiePickleBottom · 15/08/2011 18:29

perhaps it's an insurance reason why he wasn't allow to got to the toilet.

but op yanbu, he need to go

Ivortheengine8 · 15/08/2011 18:47

DBF - You carry bag around for dogshit. Mums dont generally go around carrying a bag and shovel in case their dc's need to go to the loo and have to do it outside. (unless they are still in nappies)

DogsBestFriend · 15/08/2011 18:57

Ivor, I'd probably be safe to assume that the OP could have obtained a bag from the nearby post offiice or Boots pharmacy. In fact, I should imagine that Boots still sell whole packets of nappy bags, just as they did when my children were little.

And disinfectant, if need be.

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TheMonster · 15/08/2011 19:34

I'm fairly apt at picking up dog poo, as I have two dogs. However, I cannot pick up water, with or without a bag!

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festi · 15/08/2011 19:49

YABVU you sould have llet him shit on the receptionists desk, what a rotten git turning a child away from using the toilet.

Whathashappenedtomyboobs · 15/08/2011 19:50

I would write a letter of complaint to the doctors regarding the lad who wouldn't let your son use the loo, your son was not well. Doctors are in the business of making people feel better not causing them distress.

This story is very close to my heart as my fella has bowel disease and often has to go with no notice (and I mean no notice) it's distressing and embarrassing and I'm shocked at the fact so little people help by letting a desperate person use the loo.

Rant over!

Ivortheengine8 · 15/08/2011 19:51

I hope the receptionist steps in it on her way to work tomorrow Grin

Ivortheengine8 · 15/08/2011 19:51

I hope he steps in some dog poop too DBF just to make the experience twice as nice Grin

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TheMonster · 15/08/2011 19:52
Grin
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LolaRennt · 15/08/2011 19:54

Animals poo in the grass you shouldn't have cleaned it up unless it was pickupable. I would have however made sure the receptionist knew that he made a 4 year old shit out side the building.

pigletmania · 15/08/2011 19:57

Don't worry about it BOE, these things happen. What's the alternative, that your poor dc walks around with poo pants. You can't really compare it to a dog, mums don't go round with plastic bags, gloves and disinfectant as these things don't happen. Her ds was denied the use of the toilet twice, dogs are cannot use a toilet. When dd was potty training I did carry round a potette and had to use it for things like this, but when she got better I stopped carrying it about.

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