to stand my ground on not visiting SIL

[LoopyLiz88]

My sil said some rather awful things to her and DH's brother about me and I overheard. This was about 7weeks ago. I told her I overheard and she denied it but her brother confirmed it to DH. I told her that I would not be going to her house and she was not welcome in mine. Yesterday I went to work, did the weekly shop and went home. I fixed DH and the DC a salad and went to a girlfriend's to see a movie and enjoy not having our children. SIL then sends me a message on facebook saying I need to get over what I think she said and that she knows it is my fault we didn't go to her house that evening. I honestly had no idea what she was talking about and told her as much. I called DH and he said she had invited us and he'd declined because he was spending time with the DC alone. DH isn't speaking to her much anyway. I told DH when it happened that I wouldn't be going to her house but had no problem going to his dad's and that I wouldn't get upset if he went to his sister's. AIBU to keep avoiding SIL.

bloody hell, what a storm in a tea cup! Life's too short. Yeah, what she said wasn't nice but I think you just need to get over it and make up. We're not at school any more.

She sounds jealous and a little unhinged to be screaming at BIL, why was that?

I would write her a letter/email etc. and say 'I expect an apology for your hurtful comments about myself and my children. To date you have not apologised but simply denied ever saying it. You need to take responsibility for your actions, I honestly expected more from you which has disappointed me further.'

I am not going to go to her house and she is not welcome in mine until I get an apology. I've already told her that I said my piece in July and that she still hasn't apologized. I honestly thought she would have apologized by now but BIL and DH don't seem too shocked that he hasn't.