A work colleage who has been with us three years is going on a 3 year study leave (for her phd). In theory she is to return to work but who knows what will happen after that three years. Her leaving do is on thurs and work have only arranged a card (and we are going to lunch).
I asked about a collection for a gift but was told there wouldnt be one as she was "just going on leave, njot actually leaving".
Does this seem a bit mean?