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AIBU to refuse

15 replies

MissMap · 13/08/2011 15:09

I have 2 DNs and a Dnephew staying with me plus a french exchange student and my own DC. As I have a large enough vehicle to transport us all I have planned various trips out this week.

My brother is due to take a group of his students away this week and has just had an accident which has put his Uni mini bus off the road. So he wants to borrow my vehicle,this week,at such short notice .

I have refused and he is absolutely furious as this is effecting his work and my trips are "only for pleasure".

He is not an easy man and I usually fit in with him, but I feel this is asking too much. AIBU

OP posts:
maristella · 13/08/2011 15:12

What a shit he is being! He has no right whatsever to your car.
Surely he can get the uni to hire a replacement vehicle?

scurryfunge · 13/08/2011 15:12

His insurance can sort out a replacement vehicle surely? He sounds a bit of a bully to totally disregard your plans.

pjmama · 13/08/2011 15:12

I think he's being a cheeky bugger frankly. You're under no obligation to lend him your car thereby ruining your own week. Let the Uni hire one if it's a student trip.

Tell him to sod off.

asecretlemonadedrinker · 13/08/2011 15:13

Is he insured on it? It will need work insurance etc. YaNBU

TheFlyingOnion · 13/08/2011 15:13

YANBU

What would he do if he didn't happen to have a sister with a large car? Well, he should do that!

squeakytoy · 13/08/2011 15:20

If his need is work related, then it is upto his employers to sort out the hire of a replacement. Tell him to bugger off.

Original poster
MissMap · 13/08/2011 15:24

I think he was hoping to get his vehicle repaired without informing his emlpoyer. I suspect it may be a delicate issue for him.

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nocake · 13/08/2011 15:24

He is being unreasonable to ask you as the uni should sort out a replacement vehicle.

Original poster
MissMap · 13/08/2011 15:27

I may be wrong about that.
Secret that is a good point He wont have thought about the insurance aspect. He may be brilliant but he is not very worldly! Problem solved.

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addictediam · 13/08/2011 15:46

Let me get this straight, you have 4 children that aren't yours staying with you for a week. Plus your own?! And your brother thinks you are being unreasonable for wanting to get out of the house with them all!
Ya so nbu, you are a saint. Tell him where to stick his complaints and only for pleasure remarks, its your car and by the sounds of it you will need it for your sanity!

ChaoticAngeloftheUnderworld · 13/08/2011 17:10

YANBU He can get another vehicle sorted through the uni.

Birnamwood · 13/08/2011 17:56

yanbu.

He will need specific insurance to carry students. What a shit he is being!

YouDoTheMath · 13/08/2011 20:57

I don't see how it's your problem, or why you should provide the solution.

What does he expect you to do? Sit at home with your brood all week?

Ignore his tantrum - it would certainly make me even less inclined to help.

Claw3 · 13/08/2011 21:08

YANBU, enjoy your week.

blaaahh · 13/08/2011 21:09

yanbu

his problem if hes crashed his minibus - dont get involved covering up for him just to ruin your plans

think your v brave btw with all those kids!

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