OP, so very sorry for your loss. After that I'm not at all surprised you think a C-section might be safer. Statistically, of course, they're not. Most people I know have had them and been fine, that said.
I've had 2 c-sections: one emergency (which knocked me about), the second elective which was wonderful (as major surgery goes). As yours is potentially an elective one, it should be fairly straightforward, although I do know people who've had elective ones and have had complications of some sort. It's birth though and there's always that chance with any type of delivery.
After my second (elective) one, I was home in 2 days and on paracetamol only. I healed really well, although had some on/off lochia and a big clotty thing that stopped my uterus retracting straight away, but that sorted itself.
They also couldn't stop me bleeding for ages after birth (vaginally), but I think that was because my DD was massive - her placenta too - and they only gave me normal amounts of syntocinon. As soon as they upped that, I was fine.
Long term, I now have a large umbilical hernia as a result of my sections. It started after my first, but is now quite nasty looking and I'll need more surgery. Had a lot of back pain both times and needed physop about 8 months after as I was doubled up and struggling to walk. Again, that soon got sorted. Also the surgeon last time said my adhesions were bad in my abdomen from my first section, so goodness knows what a mess it is in there now after another section. I only hope I never need abdo surgery or that might complicate things a little.
So, in short, yes, the op went well and I've been lucky, but not escaped some side-effects iyswim.
It's best to read up on C-section risks a bit and discuss all this with your obstetrician.
Good luck with your decision.