To want to be there when he gets his results?

[liveyourlife]

My DH has the results of his scans soon, after having had a lump removed. Am I being unreasonable to want to be there when the results are given to him? He doesn't want me to be there as he'll call me afterwards if he needs me. I want to be there rather than be at work. I feel like I'm on a retainer to be called on if needed rather than his DW sharing this.

However, he goes ballistic if I'm not around when he calls, or if I don't stop what I'm doing at work to call him straight back (privately) when he does ring me. My work involves lots of other people and I can't always just drop everything, which is why I'd rather just not be there (at work). I know that work isn't my priority with this going on, but while I'm there I have to do a good job... AIBU???

And btw, I've tried to talk about it - a few times, but get shouted down every time.

Thanks Imperial - you're very thoughtful and intuitive.

Thank you liveyourlife - I'm fine - it was eighteen years ago. But I remember it well.

Whatever the future for the relationship I wish you both well, and especially for the results.

OK, I'm crying now...

Hey, no need to cry! When are these results, so that we can be here for you either way? (He sounds like he's going to be in a foul mood whatever happens!)

Deep breaths. Thanks. They're next week but then we're away for a few days with his DD so I won't be around here till the week after. Does this thread stay open for me to add to that far in the future and I can let you know how things went with the results?

Wow - he wants his cake and to eat it, doesn't he?!?!I would be inclined to tell him that he can't have it both ways. Either you are "permitted" to be there for him or you are not, in which case you focus fully on what you are doing - whether that is work or having coffee with your best mateWhat a princess!!!

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Wow being a princess?! I am assuming the guy is a "bit" stressed

Yes, you just have to look on Threads I Started and you can get it all going again. (Nearly typed Threats I Started - would be more appropriate in some of these threads!)

Have a good holiday and let us know when you get back.

LOL - great, I'll do that. Flippin eck, scared, crying, laughing, I'm knackered!! Back after hols. Thanks again.

Just thought I'd give a quick update... results are in and all is well!!! Yippee... :) Things are a little calmer and more open talking going on, so fingers crossed for the future. I've even missed a couple of calls and there's been no great shakes so maybe things are a little more in perspective? Who knows... I'm holding out for bright and happy things... Thanks again for all your good wishes before the hols.