To be absolutely furious with H

[besidemyself]

H and DS1 (10), do karate at the local sports hall on Thursdays. DS attends the junior class from 7-8.30. H attends the senior class from 8-9.30 (overlap intended). We live in a smallish, well-lit community and there are no crossings or anything on the route between our house and the sports hall.

We have two younger DCs (3 and 5). So what's been happening is that DS1 will walk or scoot over to the sports hall or I will take him with the younger DCs (no car). He then trains, changes and scoots home arriving at about 8.45. It's still lightish then here.

Tonight he didn't come home. DD1 was asleep but DS2 wasn't or I would've gone out to look for him. I rang DH's phone a million times and was on the brink of getting the kids up and going out to look for him when he and DH turned up together. I'd already tried the next door neighbours to see if they were in but they weren't.

DH had got DS1 to stay on as he (DH), was getting a new belt. He 'thought it was obvious' that he'd get DS to stay on. He didn't check his phone or think to tell me. It would've taken him 30 seconds to send me a text.

I AM FURIOUS. I seriously thought something may have happened to DS. DH is saying bullshit like "I'm sorry you were scared", and "I thought it was obvious what had happened". No real apology or admitting he was thoughtless.

I want to rip his head off! AIBU?

[Bogeyface]

Besidemyself he allowed a 3 year old to wander off by herself around rockpools and the sea?!

He needs crash course in child safety, that is not on at all.

[besidemyself]

His attitude is that if nothing bad happened, the whole thing was fine and not worth worrying about.

Whereas I am the other extreme and am full of what ifs.

[LineRunner]

I'd have rung the sports hall and made them go and find him.

[ChaoticAngeltheInnocentOne]

YANBU and I agree with who says that was not an apology.