Should I be pissed off with DP??

[JamaicaGeisha]

Last night said 'I'll be back in an hour', took 2.
Tonight left at 5.45, saying 'I'll be back in less than an hour'. Still not back. Currently I do not have a phone in the house so can't ring him.

I know where he will be, I know he is not cheating, and actually I really like having the time on my own. So should I be tell him off for breaking his word, or just leave it as I am actually not that bothered?

Sounds very control freaky to me.

I have a friend who has similar tendencies. We used to live near each other, and her DH and my DH would occasionally bump into each other on the way home and have a cheeky pint or three.

My DH would turn up at 11pm, slightly worse for wear, and I wouldn't bat an eyelid. He'd then say how my friend had texted her DH repeatedly with "where are you/are you okay/still alive" type messages, graduating to calls which her DH would roll his eyes and end up turning his phone off to get a bit of peace.

The messages always seemed v passive aggressive and control freaky, and frankly embarrassing for her DH. I wonder OP if you have thought how your behaviour might come across to third parties?

But why didnt the guy just let his mrs know he had decided to go out? If i was at home waiting for someone who just didnt turn up as arranged i would have the right to be annoyed.

But why didnt the guy just let his mrs know he had decided to go out? If i was at home waiting for someone who just didnt turn up as arranged i would have the right to be annoyed.

Maybe it leads to more trouble and demands to come home?

She's not waiting for him so they can go out as I understand it; just at home.

My dh used to do this all the time and it drove me mad (was almost always when he was in the pub and a couple of pints turned into a night out) Now he says he doesn't know when he'll be home and I'll ask him to text if he'll be later than about 12.30. It takes the stress out of things. You're not pissed off so there is no need to pretend to be but why not just point out the times as you have here and ask him to try and stick to timings or tell you if he doesn't know

It wouldn't bother me, but then I have been known to tell DH I will be back "shortly" when at my dad's, then get into a lengthy debate with dad. likewise DH went over there for dad's monthly boys' night last week and said he would be an hour- yeah, right, I thought!

Unless I actually needed him home, I probably wouldn't bother