To sell my eggs in the US?

[EggSeller]

Have name changed as I know people in RL and don't want them knowing my plans.

Anyway, I have student debt (overdrafts, loan, student loan) that I'm struggling to pay. I have a good job, as does DP, but the cost of living (London) is horrendous and we're struggling to pay the debt.

I am looking into selling my eggs in the United States. Having contacted some agencies, I think I would be able to get around $10,000 plus expenses (flights, accommodation etc) for a one-off donation. In order to go out there for around 4 weeks (which I believe is the necessary time frame for the process, from the first medication to the harvesting of the eggs), I'd take holiday from work.

So, I'd make approximately £7000 which would be amazing - I could pay off both overdrafts and a chunk from my loan.

But, DP is anxious and friends are warning me not to do it. I think that it's the best plan to get out of debt and any health risks are minimal. I'm in my late 20s now, so need to get on with it as obviously my eggs are ageing.

AIBU to consider this? Or is this the best way forward?

If you hav ben resident in Britain for 6months or more between 1980 and 1996 you are not able to donate tissue under FDA regs. So unless you have lived outside th UK and Europe for your lifetime the discussion is moot.

Indigo - it will be her baby. It'll share half of her genes, mannerisms (they're not all learned), propensity to like/dislike certain things.

Genetic material Hermione? Is that all human life can be reduced to? I cannot for the life of me understand why anyone would want to donate eggs for cash, I'm sorry, OP. I'm not judging you for doing it, but please think about whether you'll regret it later, as there's no going back.

I don't get the dislocation from "genetic material" some posters seem to have at all...I'm not judging, I just can not get my head around it. I know that after having DCs, my whole outlook on life altered immeasureably. I think, OP, you'd be wise to wait until you'd had your own family before considering this, for your own sake. I'd hate for you to spend the rest of your life wishing you hadn't done this.

Good luck with your decision.

londonone - why is that? Did we all get exposed to some top secret chemical agent in that period, that means the FDA don't consider our tissues safe? . But seriously, why please?

Hmmm lot of scaremongering on here.

I've had IVF with my own eggs.I know mums who have used donated eggs and will always be eternally grateful.I also know mums who have donated eggs(egg share) for IVF.Niether ever have had regrets,far from it.I think both are a lovely thing to do.

Until you suffer infertility you have no idea how much of a god send this is.

Before you do it some things to go through.

There are some risks with IVF but you can minimise them.IVF drugs do not cause cancer.I went to see an ovarian cancer consultant(not a fertility consultant) 6 years after to make sure.The fertility drug Chlomid if used more than 6 cycles can but it's not used in IVF.

Firstly if you've had PCOS I 'd make sure they adjust the drugs or don't do it.I had PCOS and got OHSS because I produced too many eggs, 36 to be precise.Most clinics will give less drugs in this situation but you need to be sure you're going to a safe,well known clinic. This is important whatever.

Read up on the symptoms of OHSS and drink loads after.Then if you develop OHSS you make sure you get to hospital so it can be treated which it can.I had albumen to treat and blood thinning drugs to avoid clots.OHSS is the worst case scenario and most women don't get it.Pregnancy can increase the chances but you won't be getting pg after.You'll need to check your travel insurance as if you ended up in hospital you don't want a huge bill.

One other thing personally I couldn't do it but I never could have even before kids.If you want to do it now chances are you'll feel the same in the future.

I see no moral problem what so ever with getting paid. It's invasive and they're your eggs. You will make somebody very happy.If people didn't donate sperm/eggs many,many people would still be childless.

Good luck!

thruaglass- It's because of BSE and th unknown quantity that is CJD apparently.

OP, you could always consider surrogacy? You would get 'expenses' of around 15k and be entitled to the same maternity leave and rights as if it were your own baby.

There was talk about paying more in this country to try and ease the shortage,no idea if anything has been put in place though.

Thanks londonone - horrible to think that's still lurking...you don't much hear of it these days, do you, so hopefully it's just precautionary.

Not sure I could do surrogacy - that really is a baby and a person, whereas an egg seems very different.

I've looked at the FDA advice, but then have also heard of British women donating eggs in the US without any issues, so need to find more out about it.

YANBU at all to consider donating eggs, whether altruistic or paid.

However I agree with others - best to wait until your family is complete. How would you feel if you found you couldn't have any more children after donating eggs?

Just make sure you don't do it anywhere dodgy.

We are in the US and currently looking for an egg donor. I am not sure if it would be that easy to donate overseas, as you would need constant monitoring in the weeks leading up to Egg Retrieval. You would need to either spend 6 weeks in the US, or find a local sympathetic doctor to do your monitoring.

Also, the standard rate for first time donors is $5,000. Higher rates only normally apply for women who have donated before.

If you have any questions, please ask. This is my specialist subject!

Hi EggSeller, I'm also in a similar position nd am also from the UK. Did you ever find an answer to your question about donating in the US? I've read a multitude of different things from different agencies and am thoroughly confused!

I know that this is an old thread, but I wanted to add to the discussion by saying that if someone does donate eggs they should be aware that it is no longer that hard for the donor to be located by process of elimination.

There are many genetic ancestry companies who match people with cousins (1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th). For example, "23andme". You give a saliva sample and as well as being told your genetic predisposition to certain diseases as well as particular traits (curly hair, colour of eyes, blood group) they will show you hundreds of relations (I have nearly 900) and give your likely relationship to them. Many of them state not only their surnames and country of origin but also all surnames in their family, with photos and family trees.

I have done this and asked various family members to do it and it accurately identified our exact relationships to each other . I have 2nd and 3rd cousins that I wouldn't have otherwise known about.

So, just be aware, that just because you might not give a saliva sample to one of these companies, it does not guarantee that you can forbid your relations from doing so and via them, your offspring grown from your eggs would be able to contact members of your family, whether close or distant.

If I was in a dire situation, who knows, I might consider it but to describe potential half-son and daughters as being 'just cells' is simplifying another human's life and all the consequences that brings with it.

Anyone doing it, should consider how they would feel if they were traced, what they would feel like if they were told by their half-son/half-daughter that they had had an awful life, what emotions would be prompted by seeing someone that looks just like you and what you would do if that person was contacting members of your family on these sites. There are similar emotional issues to adoption surrounding it all.

If I was young enough, I would jump at the chance to do it!