To be a tad miffed at joint birthday party email

[MummyAnnabella]

have got email from another school mum suggesting a joint party for our dds 5th birthday party. Basically it suggests I join her and her friend for a joint party. So far so good only my dd was 5 in June and her and other mums dds are 5 in sept and oct. They have said party will be on x date and at x place. Decision made. Am I unreasonable for thinking they just want me to get chequebook out for a third of cost?!

If you weren't planning on celebrating your dd birthday again, I would not see the point

Are you all three friends and they felt maybe you'd be left out? Otherwise, can't understand it.

This is virtually making fun of you. Of course they want to make it cheaper for themselves. I would question the friendship as normal friends wouldn't even think up this idea let alone asking you with a straight face as it were.

Why on earth would you join in on this given your DD's birthday is in the PAST and you have already celebrated it? This is the most ridiculous thing I've heard all week.

Reply: No thanks, we celebrated DD's birthday two months ago.

Blew - I did think about that and thought maybe they knew I would say no but wanted to give me the option. Just think it's still odd when one of them was at our picnic.

Sleepy - that's why I feel a bit miffed as really Can't think for the life of me any other reason for it.

Just really surprised by the email I guess. Feel a little scared too if this is the future of birthdays and all about money presents cost splitting. What happened to a little party with your friends and a birthday tea?

any chance they meant to send email to someone else?
if not very odd request

No def for me. Is odd I think.

Hang on, can you post us the exact wording of the email? "Join us for a joint party" with date and place included? Sounds to me like you are being invited , not asked to share!

"Dear X - I think you may have sent your email to the wrong person - DDs birthday was in June, so she's already celebrated this year.

Perfect answer.

I think amIbeingdaft may be onto something? Certainly would make more sense anyway.

I think the OP's been asked for a third of the cost, though, amI. I'm assuming that 'decision made' refers to the decision as to place/time/cost.