AIBU to be baffled by 'health martyrs'

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Bit of a whinge and I know IANBU, but if any health martyrs out there want to take me on I'm game!

I am pregnant at the moment and it's complicated. I have to inject myself everyday to prevent a DVT and, today, I had to go to the doctors to get antibiotics for an infection.

DP is what I call a 'health martyr' he's one of those 'I've never taken a day off work even when I was dying' because 'there's no point in feeling sorry for yourself, you just have to get on with it'. He regularly boasts about when he had appendicitis and was in his hospital bed on his mobile making plans to meet up with friends that same night.

He thinks I'm soft because I seem to be backwards and forwards to the doctor's at the moment. He keeps telling me that he hasn't been near a doctor's surgery for years

I am not a hypochondriac or one of the 'worried well', but I do take responsibility for my health (and my unborn DC) and will get help when I'm obviously ill. I don't see how that makes me weak!

Rant over.

Why thank you Lifeissweet

The thing is, I'd never judge someone who say had a c-section and couldn't get out of bed for 3 days, because everyone is different! Some people cope better with pain and some don't, just the way it is.

But I tell you what, I was in a shit load of pain after I had my my first nose job. The packs they put up my nose were resting on a nerve in my tooth and it was AGONY, I had neuralgic pains shooting up my face... I cried all night!

I love/hate hypocondriacs.

I am diabetic, insulin dependant - which I don't routinely tell people in real life (because they start telling how their diabetic uncle was blind by the time he was 40 and stuff ) and I love listening to people telling me how they have to take three tablets a day now or watch what they eat.

I've done four or more injections and six or more finger stick blood tests a day for thirteen years. I have to think about every mouthful I eat. I haven't left the house for thirteen years without carrying insulin, blood tester, snacks and emergency glucose. On average, I have three or four episodes of mild hypogylcemia a week.

Do I tell people about all this? No. Because nobody is interested And no, I don't think I deserve a medal. If I'm ill, I go to the doctor. And if I'm puking or something, I do moan about it. I'm just talking about the people who bore the crap out of everyone, listing all the regular medicine they have to take and the side effects. Just get on with it!

And to the OP - if you're ill, you have to go to the doctors. And yes, you need to be extra careful when pregnant. When you are pregnant is not the time to be a health martyr!

I can't stand health martyrs. They never come across as stoic or heroic to me, just lacking in empathy.

I mean, I am genuinely impressed by people who manage to carry on despite illness or disability. But don't judge me if I can't or, even worse, don't want to!

And if my friend who had no pain at all after her section is reading this, yes I'm talking about you