To ask at what point it's legitimate to complain about neighbour noise?

[RevoltingPeasant]

I am just curious, really, because there have been a few threads about this recently. At what point would you knock on someone's door to ask them to keep it down?

For example, last Xmas our NDNs had a set of professional speakers, like the type you'd get in a pub to do karaoke with, placed up against our bedroom wall, and were doing mass singing with till 12.30am. We had elderly guests who couldn't sleep.

Or, last night (school night), our neighbours 4 doors down had their teens in their back garden screaming, and I mean screaming, at the top of their lungs, such that even with all the windows closed curtains drawn you could hear them. Went on well past 1am. DP had to get up for work at 6.

Obviously this is not like blaring dance music till 4, but in those sort of situations, do you complain? Or is it anything for a quiet life and neighbour harmony?

I have lived next door to a family for 8 years who have been a problem at times.

Always had parties on a weekend (normally quiet by 1am so im not bothered)
Have BIG parties on each bank holiday (again normally quiet by 1am ish so not bothered)
Sometimes fight in the front street after having their two cans each (generally amusing so again not bothered)

However 2-3 years ago their eldest DC choking on the dear went through a phase of climbing over my back garden to get into his own eventually shitting on my drive (hand print on car bonnet where he had steadied himself and everything)
knocked on the door - had a word - all ok.

last six months
Taunts from a friend of the sons to partner
glass beer bottle flung at our head when we left house by a group leaving their house.
cans flung at window by same lad.
kicked wheely bin over so when partner went out he was surrounded and nearly got a kicking but they remembered they where little shits and he was a big man and they would lose.

went to next door and told them although i had a good relationship with them as far as im concerned its their tenancy and if they are going to let wankers idiots into their house and drink and then cause issues then its their problem.

Was expecting a mouthful but actually they where mortified and had no idea what was going on and what this lad had been doing banned said lad from their house. Bonus!

Hells bells Signet, that takes the I will never complain again!!!

I would and have put up with occasional "do's" from neighbours. The teenagers at the back had a big one last summer for leaving school - bouncy castle and beer until the wee small hours but other than the noise there was not bad behaviour. If it was going on frequently I would be more inclined to say something I guess, although to be honest my lot probably make more noise than either of my current neighbours!

I have a pretty much zero tolerance policy these days. By that I don't mean zero noise but I'll complain even for one offs. To be fair to our neighbours, they do turn it down/switch it off as soon as we ask. But it's yet to penetrate their thick skulls that maybe 3am isn't the time to start guitar practice, nor 6am and it doesn't matter what time of day it is if the noise is so loud you can't hear yourself speak in your own home.

They're on holiday right now, it's bliss and we're escaping to a new house imminently. I don't think you appreciate the level of stress it can cause until you get to realise what it's like when you don't have to put up with it.

I agree, tyler80.

Tyler, i totally agree. when i tell my friends about our neighbours and the effects their dogs are having on our family life they don't really understand it, but a few of them have been round when it has been going on.

I think eventually you get to a point where you cannot take anymore noise whatever it may be and you just have to say ENOUGH. We have just got to that point now.

OP i may post on the dog board if i get nowhere with the wardens . environmental health

We have big problems with the teens living behind us. They had 5 full on parties in 6 weeks so I politely complained to the mum, who gave me her mobile so I could text when it was too loud.

Which I did...politely, only to receive a string of abusive texts. Turns out she was drinking with her lads & showed her true colours. DP confronted her the next day & said she was embarrassed but I've refused to speak to her since.

They're having another wild party tonight. I haven't slept for more than 2 hours in one go for days as DD is still unsettled at night (11 weeks). I've gone to bed in tears. Right now I hate them so much. Twunts.

No more heels, you could ring the police and report that there is a lairy party happening and your concerned there may be minors in there?

That should get the party shut down

No more heels, you could ring the police and report that there is a lairy party happening and your concerned there may be minors in there?

That should get the party shut down

I was tempted, but DP doesn't want me to ring the police re: these neighbours. Or get EH/ASB team involved. He feels it would make things worse. I'm not happy about it but I do see his point, plus I can't go behind his back. His view is we deal until we sell next year (hopefully!)

if my neighbours has speakers on my bedroom wall blasting out i would have knocked on the door and asked them to turn it down.
also if the kids were in the garden untill 1am i would have gone and knocked and asked them to keep it down.
if your neighbours are really disturbing your sleep with loud noise then complain.
my mum had new neighbours move in next door to her which were 16 at the most. they turned their music on so loud at half 12 at night my son woke up who was asleep on the other side of the house. i went straight round banged on their door and told them straight. that is taking the piss!
its all about living around each other with consideration and respect for each other.