First off, I don't want to sound entitled here because I'm well aware that not everyone gets to go on holiday but for all that, I rather wish dp would listen before making any of our holiday arrangements.
Last night was classic. Having buggered about been rather late in booking his holiday we are now going away later than was ideal given other things happening. Bit we're still going to a lovely town in Italy that we know well (DP lived there back in his Dark Postgraduate Age) and because it's been a bit of a year with one thing and another, we plan a thoroughly restful time.
I've also had an operation that will affect my mobility for another couple of months so when discussing where to stay, I suggested the very reasonably priced little hotel we went to a couple of years back. It's particularly ideal because it has a beautiful terrace on which to relax and eat lovely breakfasts and the like and comfy sitting rooms if my leg and the weather turn mutinous. Both events being very likely since the leg will still hurt and still not behave properly when we go away. I don't want to be confined to a hotel bedroom like an invalid when all I will need is a comfortable place to sit and rest a little.
So last night, DP bounces into the kitchen saying "What do you think of this?" and I go up and look at a hotel he's found. Looks OK on the website and I'm assuming he's opted for this because the other place has no vacancies. He waffles on about it being at his preferred end of town (it is a very small town!) and he checks availability and books us 5 nights. Only then does he think to check any reviews of it. Most of which turn out to be mixed, very mixed and while I'm very easy going about accommodation and amused by the ludicrous expectations of some people, the word "dirt" is always a warning flag.
So not only is this place reputed to be grubby and the service underwhelming, it turns out that the breakfasts consist of a vending machine and pre-packed biscuits. Again, not a tragedy if there's no alternative. But I then discover he's completely disregarded my suggestion of booking at the preferred hotel and hasn't bothered to check if they have rooms. When I mildly point this out we have the classic defensiveness and "I only did what I thought you wanted, people can do no right in this house" bollocks. And yes, thanks for booking a hotel but could you not have taken the slightest bit of notice of why I'd hoped to go somewhere a little more suitable for the specific reasons that affect this year's holiday? Reasons that were discussed and I thought agreed upon. And having taken no notice, have the good grace to avoid going histrionic on me?
I realise that none of this is tragic or devastating but AIBU to find it fucking annoying, nonetheless?