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Original poster

obnoxious child in park

60 replies

devonshiredumpling · 03/08/2011 22:14

is it unreasonable of me to expect a child to have parental control in a park i visited today this child managed to upset both my children today especially my youngest who was playing footprints in the sandpit only to have this darlingboy scrub away all her prints as he did not like them he also bugged them on all the other equipment they were on wanting to get on then thirty seconds get off this happened all the time we were there (did i mention this was the only time that my youngest had played anywhere in sand as she detested before today and her playing in the sand was a big thing for her)

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StewieGriffinsMom · 03/08/2011 22:43

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Bohica · 03/08/2011 22:48

Ah those pesky 7y old boys! We met one today in the pub garden.
He was acting out by throwing the slide about etc so I sent my 3y old GIRL over to say hello & then my 7y old DD went to get her little sister.
They became instant friends & the slide throwing was swaped to, er, sliding Shock

AurraSing · 03/08/2011 22:49

Tabby, other pe

2shoes · 03/08/2011 22:49

i have been the op and the mother of the older child........(havn't we all)
oh the joys of the park.
you sit there so bored you would talk to the dustbin.
there is always a group of well organized relaxed mums all together chatting, reminding you that all you have for company is a bin.
just keep thinking that one day they will be teens and they will rather poke pins in their eyes than be seen out with you

HeatherSmall · 03/08/2011 22:50

Honestly that's nothing we've had sandcastle's kicked down, thrown in DH's face when he politely told the little treasure to stop it and told to fuck off when DH said stop it without the please.
I hate the school holidays.

gabid · 03/08/2011 22:50

But if you were with your DC wouldn't you step in and ask the boy to wait his turn to go on the equipment? Did you speak to the boy and point out that he was upsetting someone? These things happen in a playground, but I wouldn't have let a bigger boy upset my DC repeatedly ('all the time we were there') - please protect your DCs.

AurraSing · 03/08/2011 22:51

Ha!
Yanbu other people's children should be banned from parks. I take my dc to the park at 5 am to avoid other children.

KangarooCaught · 03/08/2011 22:51

OP, can;t you imagine your own dd doing this when she is 7? Not maliciously or unkindly, but because she is 7 and it's what you do in a sandpit! And kids in their clumsy ways are all about making friends and testing out their social skills, some being more adept than others.

If you didn't like it, then guide the situation - 'oh no dd, your footsteps have disappeared! (pretend horror then grin), lets make some more shall we... (turn to chat to boy) ... is the sandpit your favourite in the park? what else is also good to go on?...this is dd's first time in the sand' - be friendly and chatty. set the tone, he'll either respond in kind to your friendly overtures, or bugger off sharpish from the chatty lady!

festi · 03/08/2011 22:52

spoil sport Bohica that story would have been far better had you scooped up your dear little dcs and called the cops on him, whilst lobbying to get the liscencing laws changed to irradicate children from the pub.

although Im a bit Shock you had small children in the pub. I bet thye even had crisps and coke.

NickRobinsonsloveslave · 03/08/2011 22:53

2shoes....what do you mean you SIT at the park? I have never SAT at the park. Too busy trying to stop my DCs trashing everything.

2shoes · 03/08/2011 22:54

sorry I can only remember when he was 8
I have a vague recollection of following him like he was a mini god at one time, but I hve scrubbed it away with alcohol

emmanumber3 · 03/08/2011 22:55

2shoes - Grin. I talk to the nearest bench usually Grin.

I have also been the mother of both children in the OP at some point. Both boys. I also knew without reading that the offending child would be male & the offended party a girl Wink.

emmanumber3 · 03/08/2011 22:57

Oh no Bohica - you didn't give them Fruit Shoots at the pub did you? You may aswell just have stopped at Greggs on the way for a sausage roll Grin.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 03/08/2011 23:00

how do you know he was 7? did you quiz him?

emmanumber3 · 03/08/2011 23:01

gabid - "But if you were with your DC wouldn't you step in and ask the boy to wait his turn to go on the equipment? Did you speak to the boy and point out that he was upsetting someone?"

Seriously? You expect everyone else to queue for a sandpit whilst the OP indulges her DD's wish to make footprints? What length of "turn" would be appropriate for this, IYO?

2shoes · 03/08/2011 23:01

is the op on this thread related to the op on the slidesgate thread?
(joking)

thisisyesterday · 03/08/2011 23:03

emmanumber3, i think gabid was referring to the other equipment that the OP mentioned the boy was bugging her children over.
(presume she means slides/swings etc)

ll31 · 03/08/2011 23:04

but isn't one of the points of going to places like the park so that children get used to being around other children.. of all ages... think you're being unreasonable.

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devonshiredumpling · 03/08/2011 23:08

at the time there was only two kids in the sand pit mine and this boy no others were queuing to get in and incidentally tried to have a polite word with his mother who was very rude to me saying i should mind my own business (she was the type who was sat smoking and drinking in the corner of the park )

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GypsyMoth · 03/08/2011 23:09

she was perhaps right?

2shoes · 03/08/2011 23:10

I think the other mum was right,

thisisyesterday · 03/08/2011 23:11

wow, was she ACTUALLY smoking and drinking? in a park? Shock

muminthecity · 03/08/2011 23:12

YABU, and your post would be much easier to read if you used punctuation.

GypsyMoth · 03/08/2011 23:13

bet she was a mumsnetter!

2shoes · 03/08/2011 23:13

it was slide lady, she went over to the dark side

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