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Original poster

to think that this complete stranger should acknowledge me?

188 replies

nevergoogle · 01/08/2011 21:00

I mean, FFS, for the past two years I have walked past this guy on my way to work, every single bleeding morning.
Then, on my way home, we pass each other again.
We live in a small town, there's never anyone else about yet he strides past with his head up and stares straight ahead as if I'm a figment of my own fucking imagination.
I think he works near my house, and i must work near his. It's a 10 minute walk.

Is it too much to expect a 'morning' or a 'fuck sake is it you again trying to get a reaction who the fuck do you think you are?'
fucking something surely!? it's very annoying

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TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 01/08/2011 21:01

So he just ignores you when you say good morning to him?

That's bloody rude.

ajaybaines · 01/08/2011 21:02

Well it obviously is too much for him, for whatever reason, so YABU for stressing about it.

TrillianAstra · 01/08/2011 21:02

If he says hello then next time you might have to talk.

You might be one of these needy clinging people.

ANd he'll have to talk to you every day forever or move away

CupcakesandTwunting · 01/08/2011 21:02

Next time you pass him say "Good morning! Spiffing day!" He might think you ought to acknowledge him?

AgentZigzag · 01/08/2011 21:04

We live in a similar place and there's quite a few people I either just say hello to or have a quick chat with as we're passing.

But there is one woman who always has a right face on and never even gives the smallest smile, even though I've been passing her for at least five years.

Have you tried doggedly saying hello every time you pass? Grin

Maybe he's a murderer in his spare time and you're better off walking past?

hellospoon · 01/08/2011 21:05

You sound kinda scary..

TattyDevine · 01/08/2011 21:05

English people are so funny.

posterofagirl · 01/08/2011 21:05

This happened to me once, I tried tipping my imaginary cap, saluting and saying 'top of the morning to you' before I got a grunted 'hi' in return. Proud.

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nevergoogle · 01/08/2011 21:06

no, i don't say hello. he never makes eye contact.

on the other hand i have a friendly exchange with the street cleaner every morning, and can tell if i'm running late by how far down the high street he's got when i meet him. he's like bloody clockwork.

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redskyatnight · 01/08/2011 21:06

I used to pass the same lady every day on my way to work. Over a period of many months we progressed from studiously ignoring each other, to half smiles, to saying hello.

Then my working hours changed and I didn't see her again. It cross my mind to think whether she wondered what had happened to me. For about half a second.

You're a total stranger and are probably forgotten as soon as you're passed. Or he might be half asleep and not even notice you.

AgentZigzag · 01/08/2011 21:06

'Eccentric' I think you'll find the word is Tatty Grin

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nevergoogle · 01/08/2011 21:07

it's not in england. have no idea where he's from of course.

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nightshade · 01/08/2011 21:09

well if you never say hello then you can hardly blame him.

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nevergoogle · 01/08/2011 21:09

but... you need eye contact first surely.

he stares straight ahead.

i'm going to do a cartwheel tomorrow.

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emsyj · 01/08/2011 21:10

YANBU! I go to the same cafe with some other mum friends all the time and am now on conversational terms with 99% of the other regulars. One day I was walking through (small town) with DH and an old lady came up to me and started animatedly chatting about one of my friends. DH was really bewildered as he has no idea about my secret Mumday life and so I had to explain she was one of the cafe people. I don't know her name! But she and her friend always talk to the babies and say hello to us.

GingerbreadDad · 01/08/2011 21:10

So you have never talked to him but expect him to talk to you?

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nevergoogle · 01/08/2011 21:12

yup

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AgentZigzag · 01/08/2011 21:13

I get what you mean about it progressing on from eye contact first, it is a bit odd that he doesn't acknowledge you in any way after so long.

GingerbreadDad · 01/08/2011 21:14

Well then your BU

His probably thinking the same as you

GingerbreadDad · 01/08/2011 21:16

Maybe he used to be a londoner, they are experts at ignoring people during their commute to work. Grin

AnyFucker · 01/08/2011 21:18

start clucking like a chicken

or flash your boobs at him

it will get you a reaction one way or the other Smile

tethersend · 01/08/2011 21:19

I once had a fling with a guy who I passed on the way to work every morning.

He clearly thinks you're HOT.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 01/08/2011 21:19

He might know you are a crazy lady be a bit of a daydreamer.

tethersend · 01/08/2011 21:19

And that was in London, GingerbreadDad Wink

CupcakesandTwunting · 01/08/2011 21:20

"DH was really bewildered as he has no idea about my secret Mumday life and so I had to explain she was one of the cafe people."

This sentence made me snort-LOL and I have no idea why...

I agree that it's awkward to say hi without eye contact. My nextdoor neighbour's neighbour avoids eye-contact with me, so I never say hi to him. He avoids talking to people. He is weird. With moobs.

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