To be p*ssed off with my sister?

[MEBMotherof3]

My sister is getting married next summer and has asked me to be her bridesmaid and my two boys to be her page boys- great! But then she 'suggested' that I would want to lose weight before the wedding ("everyone loses weight for a wedding") and today announced that she'd be looking for a contribution towards the cost of my dress and the two children's suit hire. I'm a size 12 and have been for the last 5 years despite having 3 children in this time and tbh with 3 children under five and PND a) my life is stressful enough without thinking about dieting! and b) money is tight!

AIBU? I don't want to upset my sister but really don't know what to say to her!

OP (just making sure before I judge the situation), you've never told your sister you don't like the weight/size you are?
Just thought maybe if she thought you wanted to lose weight, for whatever reason, than this could be a good incentive (and you could loose weight together)?

If that's not the case then she is being V.unreasonable!

regards to the hire of suits/dresses; would she let you buy your own dress or is she going for uniformed bridesmaids (I bought my wedding dress off ebay)?
Could you save up a little towards the suit hires each month? Or just hire them from somewhere cheap/buy them from a supermarket etc?

I'm horrified. OP, YANBU.

I got married 2 years ago. My DSis was one of my bridesmaids, and she's a size 24 ish. I'm a size 18, my other bridesmaids were size 12 and a child. They all wore different outfits, and they all looked beautiful. I wouldn't have dreamed of asking them to modify their bodies to look a certain way for photos.

That is bloody outrageous. And I've never heard that it is usual to ask bridesmaids to contribute to the cost of the outfits. I imagine you'll be required to wear what she wants you to? Why the hell should you fork out for a dress what you might not otherwise wear?

Have you seen that film 27 Dresses? No-one ever wears a bridesmaid dress again, whatever the bride tells them.

catpark That is an awful way for someone who's had a baby to be treated.

op YANBU and yy to the updates.

well actually anyone to be treated

OP you should remind her it is her wedding day; she is not Kate Middleton and therefore Hello / Okay Magazine won't be there to take photos.

yanbu. sister is being horrible about the weight. re:costs - rule of thumb is she chooses, then she pays, you choose, you pay.