I'm not, am I?

[acatcalledfelix]

Am organising a party for my DH (he doesn't know). We live in a different town to his family (under an hour away), but everyone else we know lives here. When I started to plan it, MIL said it should really be where they live, as BIL won't have a babysitter otherwise (Ie i need to have it at the family home). I said the home wouldn't be the right venue for the party. And, I'm inviting lots of people besides family. After lots of podering and hand wringing, I've stuck to my guns and I'm having it in our town.

So tonight I had SIL trying to persuade me to change it because of the sitter issue. I gave all my reasons for it being here, not there, and suggesting they ask friends to help them out (which is what I'm needing to do as we have a DS and our usual sitters will be at the party too). But as what always happens is that I've come out of it feeling that I am being made out to be unresonable, selfish, and not seeing family as "important".

I really think I am entirely reasonable to have a party in the town we've both lived in for many years that is our home, and that it's unfortunate, but that they just need to look at other options for once.

Am I right?

stick to your guns - of course you want the party in your town.

I've as good as booked it so it's not changing now. But I'm going to be really annoyed if they don't come unless they have tried their dmandest to get a babysitter. DH will be really sad if his brother doesn't come, and they know that, and it'll end up being my fault, argh!

if they genuinely can't get a babysitter, why can't your bil come on his own, even if its just for a hour or so?

AN hour, sheesh

I'll have to suggest that very gently. But again it's going to be seriously frowned upon, making my SIL miss out. And I'd love her to be there. But it's up to them to sort it out now they know the plan and I've made it clear I'm not budging!