This has been brewing for 20 years. My sister in law is the most selfish person on the planet, always talks about herself and her kids and totally snubs me and mine. She is jealous of the attention my children get from her parents (their grandparents) especially as hers got older (and less cute). She lives around the corner from her parents, while we only visit ocassionally. She has now had another baby and it is unbearable as ALL family conversation is rerouted to him (what colour are his poos today etc etc). She didn't congratulate me nor made any reference to the fact I was pregnant when I had my second, never asks after the girls and doesn't even say 'how are you' if I should answer the fphone. The final snub came when I gave her lots of baby equipment to which she hasn't even acknowledged or said thank you for to me or my husband (her brother). I printed loads of photos of her wedding for her, which she again hasn't acknowledged. I don't know that we've fallen out over anything particularly, it's just the way she is. Now her son is being christened and I feel nothing but dread at having to spend the day with her as all these little things have added up and I'm boiling. I really don't feel like buying a present that she will no doubt accept and not say thank you for. Am I being unreasonable?