to think its out of order for someone to push in the queue then call me fat?

[IondonIady]

A grandma pushed in front of me in the queue in M&S today. When I asked her did she not see me standing in the queue she said 'well how can i miss you you're so fat?'

She was about 70 with her DGD (abt 4) in a pram. What kind of example is that?

AIBU for thinking she is an antisocial bitch?

I think it is relevant.

It is not relevant at all, prudaloo. She was dealing with a really rude woman and now you want to know if the rude woman had a case?

Loving the stories TheFarSide & RabidRabbit.

TheFarSide- I should have rammed her ankles 'accidently' with my buggy wheels!

I have to admit she was a bit flabbergasted I picked her up on cutting in so I'm sure attacking me was a defensive reaction

Hopefully she's feeling like an idiot and ashamed for what she did (I'm not so sure). Otherwise DGD has no chance and will (as you put so eloquently MadamDeathstare) end up as a urban redneck!

What a rude old lady.

Some one once jumped in front of me in a queue. I just asked the person behind me to keep my place (they were also upset by the woman's behaviour) and went up to the cash till and told the cashiers that the person had jumped the queue. When she was next in line she was refused service. Both the lady behind me and I thanked the cashier. The queue jumper stormed out of the shop (sound of laughter behind her).

retort: I can always go on a diet if i want to - you on the other hand will need a complete personality transplant.

prudaloo - Would you you think it is ok for some random person to call you ugly if there opinion was that you were ugly? It's subjective.

their not there - sorry

Oh god YANBU, I used to work in a hospital and on one shift there was an old dear there who every single time I walked into the room would say "you are carrying too much weight dear", that was a fun shift I tell you.

I know it's not acceptable to be rude at any age, but tbh I generally give the benefit of the doubt as faculties may be declining, plus I would always feel like a right twat arguing with an elderly person no matter how obnoxious.

Hmm.. where did I say it was OK to call her fat? I asked if she is fat, as it could have some bearing on her feelings about the comment.
Iondon- I'm very good looking
Reeling- showing a good command of the English language, or do you have a limited vocabulary?

Thing is, whatever clever answer you came up with she would just have instantly responded with a mouthful of vile abuse. Because someone like her is (a) not very intelligent, (b) wired for aggro, and (c) completely shameless. Really, the only way you could have made her feel that you had bettered her would have been to have lamped her one. Which, while no doubt very satisfying, is also illegal and would have lost you the moral high ground.

No, far better to maintain silence, as you did. That way you haven't given her anything to feed her fantasy that she was somehow justified. She would have been left with that little worm of self-hatred still twisting away in her gut.

It goes without saying that YANBU.

Did you tell her how rude she was? YANBU!!

Prudaloo- are you a twat fat?

Some people unfortunately are just fecking rude.

my 8 & 9 yr old girls went in greggs (don't flame they were starving) while i waited a bit away with 18month old and feeding the 5month old. had finished feeding baby full jar of food still no girls, started to walk over to shop and out they come.
they said some teenagers came in after them and just walked to the front and asked for what they wanted, this apparently angered some older woman so she decided to push in front of my girls as well.

like you - afterwards i wish i'd have gone in and said to the shop assistant why did you let this happen, but i always have the answers after.

i have told them next time in their politist voices say ' excuse me but we were next' and if that dont work come and get me (don't know what i'll do but at least they felt like i would do something :))

I actually think that's a better idea Hester... Don't fight fire with fire etc...:)

joric- nope!

Why did she have FOUR year old in a pram??

An old lady last week told dd (3.6) that she was going to get fat as she saw her eating a half a doughnut. It was worse as she only unleashed it as we were passing her, until that point she had been smiling benignly, it sucked me right in and then she unleashed her killer blow.

I was left having to explain to the dc, no its not that likely as we have just walked half an hour to get to the bloody bakery in the first place. arrgh.

Prudaloo- seriously >trying to believe that you wernt just being a troll by asking> why it is relevant whether OP is fat or not?

Oddly enough, similar happened to me and my dh at an airshow once. We were waiting to be served at a salad bar thingie and a woman barged round to where the server was standing and pointed out what she wanted. I pointed out that we had been waiting and she said "Look at your fat pig husband!" and starting making snorty pig noises. It was so utterly bizarre that we just stood there looking astonished. Her husband looked a bit embarrassed and I could kind of see why!!

Gwedolen :o !! Did you laugh at her stupidity??? I wouldn't have been able to hold it in!!!

I was actually a bit shaken by it, but I am a bit of a wuss! :o

I'm so sorry prudaloo.

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