to just once want my DH to surprise me/do something spontaneous?

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Already feel like an ungrateful spoilt little madam even thinking this.

I can't fault my DH on any other level, but this. We don't really plan anything on birthdays/anniversaries anymore more due to the DCs and also because if I don't insist on us doing something, it doesn't happen.

I just want to have something lovely sprung on me, want him to be spontaneous and say early in the morning - 'why don't we.... today?' from his own volition. When I suggest something spontaneous, he'll normally agree but then have a little moan later that he had 'stuff to get on with' but didn't want to disappoint me/get me in a bad mood(?!!). Agreed his weekends are precious.

Whenever I hear of friends' DHs surprising them with xyz for whatever occasion it may be, I cant help feel forlorn and a tad jealous.

I know his personality type - a planner, and I am to a certain extent too but AIBU in wanting a little spontaneity once in a while??

Damn that went off half finished. Was also going to say that Its better to hint damn hard about what you want them to get spontaneous about or else they do the wrong thing :o

I sympathise as well. DH 'surprised' me' for my birthday this year with a potato ricer!

I would love something a bit romantic for once, doesn't even need to be expensive but I've resigned myself to the fact it is never going to happen.

dh once organised his one and only suporise for our 10th wedding anniversary - after dropping of kids at inlaws it turned out the concert he had organised was cancelled (announced on radio), it will never happen again i know it. Today he suprsed me by getting up early and cleaned the downstairs, amazed it then became clear as he loaded up his car with his fishing gear and has been missing since .