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AIBU?

to want to cry

52 replies

arolio · 25/07/2011 21:27

I went over to my sisters to drop a few things off and when I got there I saw her, my other sister and brother. They were all high as kites having snorted lines of cocaine (I could see some of the remains). I hate drugs and left pretty quickly but I feel so upset, my 2 sisters are only 24, 22 both unemployed and my brother is 17 (still at college). I knew that my sisters did it occaisionally but now my brother does it as well, I just find it so depressing.They're all clever and talented and could do many things but their lives are just going to waste.

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arolio · 25/07/2011 22:41

marriedinwhite- They shown willful blindness to it but no I don't think they know about my brother

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arolio · 25/07/2011 22:42

piloi- Dsis1 lost her job around 6 months ago but was using cocaine before that, dsis2 has never worked but has been to uni.

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moikla · 25/07/2011 22:55

So basically your sisters house is a coke den where your other siblings go to snort a few lines on a Monday night. YADNBU that would destroy me.

biddysmama · 25/07/2011 22:56

i would have gone absolutely ape shit at them!

inappa · 25/07/2011 23:03

I'm that you saw your 17yo brother snorting cocaine and yet you did nothing. Your sisters sound a pair of scumbags sitting around doing drugs and then introducing their younger brother into it to.

cjbartlett · 25/07/2011 23:07

Tell your parents

If they dont remove your brother from your sisters have him live with you or call social services

nolidio · 25/07/2011 23:28

YABU its there life, if they want to snort cocaine then its their choice at the end of the day.

verax · 25/07/2011 23:40

You need to get him away from them before becomes hooked on it like it sounds as though they are. YANBU to find it very depressing though

oila · 25/07/2011 23:58

I'd have gone mad in your position and certainly wouldn't have walked away, he' 17 FFS and they are leading him down a path of destruction.

electa · 26/07/2011 00:19

YANBU I'd cry if I'd seen this

Ivortheengine8 · 26/07/2011 08:28

So can anyone tell OP how exactly she is supposed to remove her brother from where he is? Call the police? Get a couple of strong men to come and take him away - frankly you are accusing her of what she probably had no control over whatsoever. Do you think her brother is just going to get upand go with her if she asked him nicely?!
Yes, she should tell her parents when they get home from holiday, but in the meantime I don't understand physically what she can do.
Calling her family scumbags is not going to help OP feel any better either. I don't care what drugs people are doing or what they are hooked on. I hate the word 'scumbag' and it shouldnt be used in any context for human beings.

NoobyNoob · 26/07/2011 08:32

Totally agree with Ivor

How the hell can she physically remove a 17 year old ffrom a situation? If he doesn't want to go, he won't go. Simples.

Love the way people are saying they'd never walk away, etc. Unless you're built like a brick shit house - yes, you probably would have to.

latitude · 26/07/2011 09:27

YANBU it sounds tragic but what can the OP do? Those saying she shouldn't have walked away, what would they have done given that there are 3 of them and she is on her own. I do feel for the OP though.

Whatmeworry · 26/07/2011 09:38

YANBU I think the OP has to tell her parents and warn her brother of thebrisks, I don't know if she could get him removed from staying with his sister though.

More than that it's hard to do, the real problems will come when they start to "need" the OP 's money help

unomania · 26/07/2011 10:00

YANBU

Ivortheengine8 · 26/07/2011 10:56

Exactly Nooby, she was on her own I pressume. At 17, he is probably a full grown lad and who knows what kind of build he is?
Who knows also what would have happened if she had tried or even called the police, its not as easy as that with family, there are lots of emotions and ties involved and it is a really difficult situation to be in.

arolio · 26/07/2011 11:32

There was no way I could force him to leave, he actually isn't that big but he wouldn't have wanted to have left and my sisters would have stopped me anyway. I could hardly manhandle him out the room.

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aeder · 26/07/2011 11:46

I know its difficult but I really think you should have done something and not just walked away

NearlySpring · 26/07/2011 11:46

Op- it is not your fault that you didn't pick up your brother and take him with you.

I think you should tell your parents, if he still lives at home they need to have a serious talk with him. I think you should also talk to your sisters and make them aware that you are disgusted they were sat doing it with your little brother. Make them feel guilty and tell them you will be telling your parents about it so they'll be out of favour with them
too!

"A line costs as much as half a pint?" Definitely not. A gram is about £40-£50 depending on where in the country you are, who you get in from and how good quality it is. Half a pint is about £2.00 ish so you'd need to be getting 20 lines from a gram. Defenitely not! Coke is still expensive. It's heroin that's cheap!

valiumredhead · 26/07/2011 12:46

how did they afford it? from what i remember it's pretty pricey and a bit of a waste for a Monday night in

I have a feeling you must be late 30's/40 plus as 'back in the day' it was expensive but apparently not these days.

WobblyHalo · 26/07/2011 13:31

I'm amazed that on another thread everyone is saying that a 17 year old is basically an adult and you can't give them a curfew, yet on this thread they're making a 17 old out to be a child that should be rescued?!

Op, there's nothing you could've done. I agree with Ivor.

And who always does or says the right thing at the right time anyway? Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Ignore these posters, I can see why you are sad.

Ivortheengine8 · 26/07/2011 14:05

Well said Wobbly :) I know at 17/18 I was pretty much a law unto myself and however much my parents tried to stop me doing stuff, I always found a way!
...and the posts that grilled OP for not doing anything have not answered how exactly and what they would have done...
OP also said that her sisters 'wouldn't have let her take him' anyway.

Spuddybean · 26/07/2011 14:07

valium i am 34....but i started early!

WobblyHalo · 26/07/2011 14:10

I also know from experience that it's best to leave someone alone that's high on drugs.
You can't talk sense into them at that moment anyway, and you never know how they might react. Some people can get violent at the drop of a hat while others will be happy and easy going.

The poor op was in shock. Personally I think if her brother saw her disappointed and sad expression before she left, then that might have a longer lasting effect than a fight trying to get him out of there.

Cheers Ivor

valiumredhead · 26/07/2011 14:14

spuddy LOL

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