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AIBU?

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AIBU to think if you buy a 3yr old a water pistol

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2011 20:27

You should expect to get wet at some point?

P bought DS2 a cheap water pistol - against my advice. Anyway this evening about 45 minutes ago DS2 went in the bathroom filled his gun and stood firing it into the shower. P called him and said "Don't spray that at me". Of course being 3 DS2 went and refilled it and sprayed daddy.

Giggling away he continued, I was trying to fix the pully switch in the bathroom at this point, turned round to P grabbing the water pistol and snapping it in half. Cue lots of tears from DS2 who I have just managed to calm down.

So AIBU to think if you buy this toy then you have to be prepared for what goes with it?
And
AIBU to think he over reacted?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2011 20:53

NJN DS2 is 3yrs old and no he wasn't shooting at anything but the tiles, quite happily. Then he was told not to do something he wasn't doing anyway so he did it.

I was on a chair at the time doing some diy while P was in the living room.

Yes DS2 was cheeky by doing what he had been told not to do but aren't most 3yr olds?

OPN, he has taught him something - that daddy is an arse and throws 2yr od temper tantrums when he wants.

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sparkle12mar08 · 25/07/2011 20:53

Yup, wasting my breath. Thought so. Hiding.

scottishmummy · 25/07/2011 20:55

my god,what choas at your place.you think dh is arse,he over reacts.
why hell havent you negotiated a split instead of acrimonious living and inevitability a child getting caught in cross fire

go see a solicitor
if you dont like each other- seperate

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2011 20:56

WYLI, he has an appt at work on Friday where he will sign forms to be medically discharged. They are paying him out/off and he is viewing places from Saturday. So we have a lot of progress there.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2011 20:57

SM I do think he acted an arse over this yes, I didn't say it I was too busy comforting DS2.

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OurPlanetNeptune · 25/07/2011 20:58

Indeed OP. I also have to say that seeing a grown up losing their temper is extremely disturbing for a child and as someone upthread said what P did was just nasty (apologies for not reading carefully before - I see that he is P not DH). Hope your DS has settled now.

reelingintheyears · 25/07/2011 20:59

Why are you asking if you already know that he's an arse?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2011 21:00

OPN he is sitting with me on the sofa watching disney channel as P walked out with the hump.

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eaglewings · 25/07/2011 21:04

What ever you don't think about pink elephants

What are you thinking about? I told you not to!

scottishmummy · 25/07/2011 21:05

strike me you're not decisive enough to do anything about this
are you just going to give he did this and that account of what arse he is instead?

options

make marriage work
or accept irreconcilable difference and separate
do nowt but bellyache on mn

plwase note 3 shouldnt be your preferred option

nojustificationneeded · 25/07/2011 21:07

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2011 21:11

NJN, thats what I thought!

SM, this thread was about what he did to DS2 nothing else. But we have agreed to seperate. He was going before but had an accident at work - he has been signed off for 23 days now pending being medically dismissed. But trust me on one thing we are not arguing as I refuse to let the DC see that. We are just making the best of a bad situation atm. He is going as soon as he gets his money.

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WhereYouLeftIt · 25/07/2011 21:35

Glad to hear there is progress,TheLadyEvenstar, but why does he have to wait until Saturday to view places to move to? Surely if he is currently off work, he has the time to look right now?

I'm saying this because I fear he will drag his heels in any way he can, your past descriptions have left me with the impression of a man who will not willingly change anything if he can possibly avoid it. I could see Saturday coming and him making no move whatsoever.

Hope things are otherwise well.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2011 21:43

WYLI Its not that he hasn't got time its just that he hasnt had the money.

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spiderpig8 · 25/07/2011 21:54

Well at 3 your DS should have known it was wrong to squirt a fully clothed adult in the house, especially as he had just been told not to.he probably did over react and shoukld ahve just taken the toy from him for the rest of the day.
For a child to see an adult ask destructively is not good at all.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 25/07/2011 22:00

Spider,

The way I see it.

DS2 was happily playing in the bathroom, not bothering anyone. I was in and out of there trying to fix the light switch. So he was not unsupervised. P called him from where he was playing and not disturbing anyone and said "Don't spray me". Now DS2 went through a stage of being fussy with food so we would put food on the fork/spoon and say "Don't eat my ABC" and turn away - DS2 would eat an entire dinner done this way. Now he eats properly, I digress, So when he was told not to spray his dad in his 3yr olds mind he was being given permission to do so.

P over reacted, broke the gun stormed out came back and is now in bed.

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