I am a regular, but have name changed for this. I am someone who has been bereaved, and the story made the local paper. There was no photo, thank God, just the copy. It was still one of the most dreadful things to read about "local man, 25...". He was someone that I loved, he was extraordinary, and there was none of that in the paper, just "local man".
This has nothing to do with the fear of death, in my opinion. And nothing to do with teaching everyone that an early death is very real and not at all glamorous. I completely agree that shocking photos have a place in journalism. In cases like Cambodia and Palestine, for example, where there were atrocities that were being covered up by the Government, it is makes sense to use photos as evidence of what is happening. Or if a government is glamourising a war, it makes sense to be confronted with the reality of it. But no-one is at all confused as to what happened here. We all know that she died.
To be honest, even if it was good for the general public to see the raw reality of her death, so what? It's her grieving parents duty to go through even more Hell (for the rest of their lives - this photo isn't ever going to go away and will crop up when they least expect it), in order to educate the public? WTF! It's different if a family have made a considered decision to try and make some good out of their child's death, that is their way of dealing with their grief. The Winehouse family have had no chance to make that decision, and if they choose to grieve in a different way, then that should be their right - all the weeping fans in the whole don't touch how they are feeling right now.
I do agree that our society has distanced itself completely from death. In my family, we view the bodies of loved ones who have died. I have done this four times (and I don't think that I'm that old yet). Our children don't go to funerals (I don't think that grieving adults should have to look after small children, they should use the funeral for their own emotional needs), but they are told what is happening, and they go to the wake. Personally, I think that that is the way to make dying a normal part of life, not through some stranger, however talented, but through the people that we love and that are part of our lives.