To think that this isn't an appropriate gift for a 3 year old?

[Gastonladybird]

Sister sent my dd a book with lovely illistrations for each letter of alpabet with different ways a kid dies ... (eg a is for Amy who fell down the stairs).

Ok admit I may be unduly sensitive (child dd knew died unexpectedly recently so have discussed dieing etc) but think there are better ways to discuss and talk about this . Or am I being ott (dsis has no kids and an odd sense of humour)

meh, depends. My 3 year old would love that book.

Who would send that. Really?

mine would've loved it at that age, but in circumstances, it is inappropriate, so yanbu

She does like pictures and accepts the description in the way kids do re fairy tales. It's me who doesn't really like it

I don't think you are being unreasonable but do confess to laughing.

How ... odd.

I find it hard to believe that any publisher would issue a book detailing the various deaths of children. Title? Publisher?

Dh laughed .. And think I would have if dd wasnt reading it as just opened it and it dawned on me what subject matter was

Sounds a bit of an odd book to buy your DD in the circumstances, but maybe she was trying to show her that there are lots of ways people can die and that they can be accidental.

My childless DB sent my 5 year old a book called the Bunny suicides

Is it the Gashlycrumb Tinies? That's a fab book, DD loves it! (3.5)

Sorry - was your sister trying to help your DD come to terms with the death of the friend? In which case very thoughtful of her.

Or is she just barking?

The gashlycrumb tiniest by Edward gorey - published by bloomsbury. My view is aimed at older market

I used to adore the fantastically gruesome Struwwelpeter as a very small child - and I've turned out relatively sane

Nursery rhymes and fairy tales are far worse from that point of view. I don't think I would have given it a second thought.

Is is this one?

I am baffled that someone would write a book like that!

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oh, ds1 LOVES bunny suicides.

but if the chid has lost someone lately, then it is a bit

Here

twentytwowords.com/2011/02/02/a-is-for-alice-who-fell-down-the-stairs-a-morbid-illustrated-alphabet-poem/

is it this...if so not sutiable for a 3 year old

I've seen it. It was on the walls of a pub toilet.

My first instinct wasn't to rush and buy it for my DCs

YANBU.

It sounds like a very odd book, and I certainly wouldn't send it to a 3 year old.
I don't think you are being unduly sensitive to be honest, and even with your sister being child free and having an odd sense of humour I think it's quite a thoughtless 'gift' frankly.

Is it actually aimed at a child your dd's age or older kids? Or even adults in a funny kind of way?