to not mind my 15 year old having a couple of beers and a WWYD?

[AtYourCervix]

DD1 (15) went to a party this week. loads of her friends there - at another friends house. His parents were there.

I have found out (via facebook stalkery) that they did drink and DD has confirmed it. She says she had a couple of budwisers. She was tired the day after but not hungover. she is very honest and sensible and i believe her.

Obviously in many ways i would prefer she stayed at home reading but that isn't going to happen, she is growing up, and if she is going to, i'd rather she was at someones house than in an alley somewhere (very occasionally) .I am ok with DD having a couple of drinks in a safe place. She knows that I am. I trust her and she is very honest and will talk to me.

However. A daughter of a good friend was also at this here party (DD v matey with her as I am with the mum) and I know she would not think the same.
I was surprised this girl was staying over at a 'mixed' sleepover as she hasn't been allowed up until now and I know that these parents would very much not approve of them having beers.

So do I keep my gob shut as DD has asked? or tell my friend?

I can know whats going on and be in the loop rather than pretend that there is no loop and my child won't do tis kind of thing

Totally agree, Custardo.

Agree with custardo as well

DS ex girlfirend was banned from drinking at a party. We know she drank there and banned anyone from putting a picture of her on facebook with one in her hand. However her parents told us that they knew she hadn't drunk at the party, we didn't make them any the wiser. We also other things she was getting up to and they were in total denial.

However we know DS does drink at parties and he comes home and tells us what we had. He has never been more than tipsy and usually ends up looking after those that have had to much.