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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be a little pissed off with DP?

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AngryChair · 23/07/2011 16:12

My washing machine has fucked up. It's ancient so no point in getting it fixed so I've ordered a new one. However it's not going to be delivered until next thursday - I had a pile of washing in the machine when it cocked up so that is now soaking wet and half washed - therefore in need of a proper wash before it goes mouldy PLUS my son has just got back from a week abroad so I have a suitcase of his stuff to wash too.

I've just text DP explaining what's happened and asked if I can do a wash at his house, just ONE load and he text back with "can't you use the laundrette?"

This wouldn't have pissed me off so much if it wasn't for the fact that he let his ex wife use his washing machine for an ENTIRE YEAR after they split up and I ask for ONE wash and he points me in the direction of the laundrette??

AIBU??

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ThumbsNoseAtSnapewitch · 23/07/2011 17:05

you wait - he'll start charging you petrol money for when he comes to yours soon!

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 23/07/2011 17:12

So either he's lied about his DC knowing I exist I suspect that there was no need for your 'or' and you can take this as a given.

If he doesn't shortly fetch up on your doorstep with his washing machine strapped to his back and a red rose between his teeth, you're best advised not to let him over your threshold again.

The alternative is to label all of your appliances and foodstuffs with cost per use/minute and be on standby with an empty coffee jar to collect the revenue next time he avails himself of the facilities in your home.

Personally, that sounds like far too much hard work so I'd simply ditch the tightwad.

LineRunner · 23/07/2011 17:25

*gosh, this man has a very precious washing machine doesn't he ?

it seems his relationships, past and present, are defined by it*

AnyFucker, my biggest laugh of the day.

OP, is this a BF of recent acquaintance? Or an established DP? (You seem to know at least a year's worth of washing machine usage by his Ex.)

I think you can do better; you seem nice and funny and kind.

SheCutOffTheirTails · 23/07/2011 17:27

Order of the boot!

SarahStratton · 23/07/2011 19:56

Tell him to go forth. He sounds an utter cunt stingy fucker.

ImperialBlether · 23/07/2011 20:01

Get rid of him. He sounds horrible.

forehead · 23/07/2011 20:08

Please , get rid of this asshole. He's pissing me off and i don't even know him.
Whatever you do DONT marry him.

manticlimactic · 23/07/2011 20:09

Text back 'It's ok. has offered his facilities, so I don't need yours'

maras2 · 23/07/2011 20:10

Well AngryChair, you did ask. Mx.

namechange100 · 23/07/2011 20:15

This DP does not seem to have the same lifestyle values as you in he is very stingy YANBU he is tight and mean. The fact that he does all those things at yours sounds like hes selfish and using you.

What are his redeeming features? Time to evaluate, how long you been together/serious/often do you see each other?

Thats BS about kids off school, he could run out and collect it from you without you being seen and say its for a neighbour.

BootyMum · 23/07/2011 21:06

He doesn't sound like a very nice person really.

Would you put up with a friend treating you this way?

If not, it's probably time to have a think just what exactly you are getting out of this "relationship".

Your DP sounds mean and withholding imo.

Ephiny · 23/07/2011 21:29

I would find it very trying to be with someone who begrudged me every little thing, like a cup of coffee (!), using the washing machine etc. Especially when you've done his washing for him in the past! Do you think he's very short of money? Or is it just his personality?

verytellytubby · 23/07/2011 21:29

He resents you drinking his coffee

Deal breaker for me. I can't stand stinginess.

Inertia · 23/07/2011 22:55

YANBU. I would be seriously pissed off. The more you post about him,the more stingy and petty he sounds.

Sandalwood · 23/07/2011 23:06

I don't think it's the electricity/coffee stuff.
It's the children.

scottishmummy · 23/07/2011 23:11

stating obvious,why you with the stingy git

WhoseGotMyEyebrows · 24/07/2011 11:54

Regarding the coffee issue alone, do you think that actually he might have just been running out? My DH hates running out of certain things such as milk, bread, peanut butter and coffee. He has them all for breakfast so wouldn't want it all used up the night before. Do you think it could be that rahter then the money. You say that he drinks loads of coffee so it may be that he felt that he couldn't start the next day without some.

Sparkletastic · 24/07/2011 11:57

dump his ass

clappyhands · 24/07/2011 11:59

he's gotta go.......

muminthemiddle · 24/07/2011 12:54

YANBU. Make sure you tell him where to go when he asks a favour from you. In fact I would tell him straight now, go fuck yourself the next time you ask me to do your washing, bastard.

ShoutyHamster · 24/07/2011 13:03

Oooohhh this one has to go, surely?

Stinginess is a bad, BAD quality. Refusing to help someone (especially your DP!!) when there's a crisis is much, much worse. He's telling you who he is - listen!

How long have you been with him?

I'd move on...

ENormaSnob · 24/07/2011 13:32

Ewww do you have sex with this person?

TeenieLeek · 24/07/2011 14:49

Is he a long term boyfriend? Seems a bit odd you would exchange text about such a thing when quicker for both to pick up the phone. I have in the past kidded myself that relationships where most communication was by text were normal but tbh if you had a proper relationship you'd have been on the blower chatting about the whole washing machine saga in the way that couples share all the mundane stuff in their lives. If it is a newish relationship then fine, but if he hasn't yet felt able to tell his kids about you he should just have admitted that and explained he wasn't ready yet, understandable as long as he's honest. If he's being cagey or downright lying about it tbh "he's just not that into you".

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