To need mumsnet to make every single day to day decision for me?

[TheRhubarb]

Should I buy some hideous dress from ebay? Should I open the door if someone dares to knock on it? How about if the telephone rings, should I answer it? My husband looked at me funny yesterday, aibu to be still upset about it? My leg is hanging off, should I bother the GP?

What did all these people do before Mumsnet? Run around in circles screaming hysterically?

Erm, mine wasn't "should I answer the door". It was more asking if I was being ridiculous for operating a "if you bang the fuck on my door, so much that it nearly sets off a panic attack, or I'm not expecting you and you turn up un-fucking announced when I may not be in, then I'm not answering the door" policy. Now please. If you thought I was being pathetic, whatever, perhaps you could have let me know on my thread, rather than posting little fucking digs?

Your thread title was AIBU for not wanting to answer the door or some such. I gave it a general glance over and felt that there was nothing I could add to that thread. Yes it did strike me as being rather pathetic, as do some of the other threads. I'm sure I've posted quite a few pathetic threads in my time too, this was just to vent against all such threads and as yours was in my mind I used it as an example. However I didn't link to it and I didn't reveal your posting name. Sorry you got offended, I guess I hope you just wouldn't bother reading this thread.

Well, considering you made reference after fucking reference about it, are you fucking suprised I got offended? Seriously? As I mentioned on that thread, I do have PTSD symptoms. So yes. I probably do need fucking therapy. The constant hints at my thread made it QUITE fucking clear which thread you meant. So, itr doesn't matter if you "named" me or not, you made it fucking clear who yuo were on about

Sorry, obviously I have offended you and no I didn't know you had PTSD. To be honest the thread was on AIBU and stated "to open my front door" and yes I did take the piss out of that on this thread because the title said it all to me. Neither did your OP on that thread give any clues as to your PTSD.

I apologise however. I was taking the piss and meant no real offence.

And there are rather too many threads where the original poster, having received excellent advice, spends all day knocking it back with a litany of those irritating 'Oh but the reason that wouldn't work......' responses.

'My FiL is annoying my DH.'

'So tell your DH to talk to his father.'

'Oh the reason that that wouldn't work is that I won't let him DH has a disorder that prevents him from speaking to males relatives without the presence of an aadvark......'

Aaaagh.

If all the info was presented in the OP then fair enough, but they often miss vital info and only present that when they feel they are being 'got at' (and no this is not another reference to you dontcallmepeanut)

So if you say "yes your dh is a cock" they'll say "but he has narcolepsy and depression so how dare you say that!"

rhubarb, the reason I left the PTSD out originally was to try and get an opinion which people WOULDN'T have been basing on the illness. I didn't want a discussion on the illness, just an opinion on whether the way I operated was really completely nuts.

I rest my case.

Well it was. I thought it very very strange that someone would post a thread on whether or not they should open their front door.

My brother has PTSD after serving in NI at the height of the violence but even he would open his front door. So, being totally totally honest with you, I think perhaps you need to see someone because it's not so much not wanting to open your front door that is an issue, we all do that, it's wanting advice on it that is odd.

I agree on the needing to see someone. I'm currently trying to pluck up the courage to go back to my gp about it. (last time, got a substandard counsellor, and anti depressants which made me worse) PTSD affects everyone differently.

I think this is a pretty horrible thread.

While you're setting out your 'rules' about posting, isn't it bad form to start a thread about a thread?

You have apologised to the OP of the other thread but your last post makes it quite clear that you don't mean it.

If you have a problem with a thread why not go on the thread and challenge it.

1. you do realise the questions are by different people, not just one?
2. Just because your brother had something and acted one way doesn't give you the right to denigrate other people because they.
3. What do you think the point of MN is then?

Surely how PTSD affects each individual is a personal thing though.... that is a little bit of a 'nothing' statement

Some people might have a horrific car accident and struggle to drive again, someone else might get straight back in the car without a thought.

And I think YABU in your OP. It's chit chat, not something I massively engage in on here or in RL, but most of it to me is just musing.
Connecting with people on yes, maybe a banal level generally, but it is just akin to office chat IMO. Or the sort of stuff people natter about at the school gate.

And sometimes it provides a social contact for some of us that is lacking.. I work alone and don't have much chance to socialise, so I do sometimes ask what might seem trivial stuff....

Um, this thread isn't a thread about a thread, it's a thread about lots of threads and that particular thread came to mind as it was in active convos. It also illustrates how a thread title and OP can be very misleading and lead posters to make unintentional offending posts because they are not in possession of the true facts.

I did apologise and I am sorry for causing dontcallmepeanut offence. She stated that she wanted honest opinions and so I have given her mine. Feel free to be offended on her behalf however.

And yes I do find it weird that people can ask advice from random strangers on a whole host of seemingly random posts. Like what they should have for lunch or which dress they should wear when we don't even know what they look like!

People used to phone up local radio and chat shit at 11pm. I don't know if they still do, or if they are all MNing at half 8 so they can get to bed early

What I find also baffling are where the OP posts a thread asking AIBU.....and then goes on to rip to pieces anyone with an alternative point of view.

That's ridiculous!

AIBU is going to bring forth diverse opinions. If you post a thread then you must expect that....

Errrr and if you resort to bad mouthing and foul language then you've really lost any point you were trying to make in the first place.

What, like the point that you're angry? Nope. I think a few "fuck"s get that message across even better...

Oooh Nagini, I remember the James Whale show in Newcastle. Late night mentalists

dontcallmepeanut, yup, I do like a good fuck I do!

We had one of those radio shows in Oldham where people would phone in and chat about whether or not worms had eyes or which was the best way to part your hair. I kinda got the feeling that these people hid during the day and only came out at night to phone up the local radio.

Note to self: Proof read before posting...

See now I like you! Ok we got off on the wrong foot but you've proved yourself a good sport and not a grudge bearer so I may just have to become your new best friend (and I promise never to knock loudly on your door )

I sometimes post asinine and banal threads because I am lonely and don't get to chat about nothing much to other adults some days :)

I like you both of you and want your take on 'Bigger house or private school' thread.

My first time on mumsnet and it seems like you are all horrible / mental / wondering why you are on here / wishing you weren't / criticising those who are. Good start. I like it already.

YABU.

Or YANBU.

I can't decide.