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To let DS (15months) play outside..

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celebmum · 19/07/2011 21:51

Today after work I let DS who is 15 months old, 'play out' in the back garden whilst I got on with a bit of housework..

I had the windows open and the patio door, there are no steps/exits/steep drops that he acess to, no way he could of got out onto the street. he was playing with his sand pit and cars etc and going down the side of the house to put thugs through the catflap. I never left the kitchen or living room, I could hear him at
all times and see him for prob 90%of the
time... WIBU? My Sis who has no Chilean seemed to think this was too relaxed? No I'm beginning to wonder? He is a confident walker (walking 5/6 months) so not crawling about etc..

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zukiecat · 19/07/2011 21:52

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Sirzy · 19/07/2011 21:53

Personally I wouldn't feel happy to do that. When DS who is 20 months is in the garden I am out there with him supervising.

He has been walking since he was 14 months but still crawls around in the garden, around the plants etc.

MissVerinder · 19/07/2011 21:53

I don't think YABU. If the garden is nice and safe and secure, he'll probably love it.

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 19/07/2011 21:55

YANBU. DS1 has gone out by himself since he was about that age.

PippiLongBottom · 19/07/2011 21:56

I've let all my three play out at that age with no qualms.

snice · 19/07/2011 21:56

I love that your Sis has no Chileans at her house Grin

feckwit · 19/07/2011 21:56

Does your sister have a Brazilian?!

Southwestwhippet · 19/07/2011 21:56

I do this with my 17month old, my back gate is padlocked and the garden totally secure. She is always in earshot and 90% of the time I can see her. If she goes out of sight (round the other side of the car to poke the chickens) I go and check on her.

YANBU

AuntiePickleBottom · 19/07/2011 21:56

was he safe though, an alien could of beamed him up :)

he was most probably safer in a garden alone than in the living room..no sofa to climb on ect.

couldn't leave DD at that age out the garden as she used to take a fancy to eating mud, random insect ect.

HoneyNorwegianRidgebackdragon · 19/07/2011 21:56

DD has done this since she was about 14 months, especially as it's hard to keep her in when her brothers in and out. 90% of the time I can see her, the other 10% she's hightailing it up the climbing frame Grin

KAZAMM · 19/07/2011 21:57

sounds fine to me. My DD is 17 months and I've done the same thing.

Nancy66 · 19/07/2011 21:59

Walking at five months?????!

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mercibucket · 19/07/2011 21:59

am loving the thugs and chileans
sounds mental where you live
Grin

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celebmum · 19/07/2011 21:59

Damn iPhone!!Grin

Nope not a Chilean in sight at my sisters!! As for the thugs I meant 'things'!!

He's a confident little thing, he was love g it and as soon as I thought I hadn't heard him for a min I went outside..

I don't want to be PFB with him but I don't want to be so relaxed that he has no boundries either!! Smile

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celebmum · 19/07/2011 22:00

Been walking for 5 nearly 6 months!! Not since that age! Grin

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snice · 19/07/2011 22:01

You know your own child best-but I could't have done it with either of mine as they would have been straight into the flowerbeds/eating worms/pulling flowers up

thisisyesterday · 19/07/2011 22:03

sounds fine to me op

squeakytoy · 19/07/2011 22:05

15months is still so young.. I would be concerned about bee or wasp stings.. falling and banging head... I couldnt leave a child so young on their own out of sight. YABU.

Bohica · 19/07/2011 22:10

My children spend most of their free time in the garden & love it, they have done so since around this age.

Although we don't have any thugs to post through catflaps

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celebmum · 19/07/2011 22:14

Oh I can't decide if I am BU or not! Confused

The catflap is the best thing since sliced bread in DS's eyes at the min!! Anything and everything goes in/out at the moment!! Toys, shoes, spoons, magnets, washing (he drags this from the washer to the catflap and puts it out!!) you name it and it's prob been through the catflap in this house!! Blush

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sims2fan · 19/07/2011 22:15

I agree with squeaky and the others who think it's too young. He's just a baby and could end up eating plants/soil/insects etc, or put a stone in his mouth and choke. Besides which it's lovely to watch and be with children when they're happily playing

HeyYouJimmy · 19/07/2011 22:23

Fine to do considering you are keeping and ear and an eye out for your wee lad. I'd reckon that your boy will learn about falling over, grazed limbs, bumped heads, sand in eyes etc. You'll probably learn about minor concussion and be a dab hand at putting on plasters and all that stuff which comes with having kids.

I'm actually admiring you NOT wrapping your boy up in cotton wool and letting him experience life bit by bit.

Good on you OP Smile.

Sirzy · 19/07/2011 22:26

Does a child that age really need to "experience life a little bit"? Plenty of time for that when they are a bit older and old enough to understand safely a bit.

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celebmum · 19/07/2011 22:29

Ooh don't get me wrong sims2, I love being with DS! I relish the fact that I'm able to work part time so that I can be with DS! it wasn't like I left him outside for hours, it was more like 20mins tops.. Enough time to load the dishwasher, fold washing, pick up toys etc

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