In thinking shit and shite are the same?

[TiggyD]

I always thought they were exactly the same but do you think that 'Shite' is a more polite version of shit? If I'm ever invited to a tea party or roller disco with the Queen and I see some shit on the hem of her dress am I supposed to say "Marm, you appear to have some shite on your dress" so I don't offend her? Does fuck/fucke work the same?

Shite is swearier than shit, IMO.

I think it was also what I commonly heard growing up in Scotland, shit seems more common in England.

yes.very much so.shite has gravitas
shit is whimsy and blah

I tend to say "oh shit the bed" instead of "oh shit". I'm comfortable with shit or shite but I don't like "turd", it doesn't sound nice.