to want him to suffer badly

[seasidesister]

Dh looking after our dc all day as I had a course to attend. Got home late afternoon. Ds1 is 3yo and told me dh pushed him twice.

Dh said he is sorry and feels terrible. I am furious and have threatened to call police. What should I do? Am I overreacting? Feel like pushing him out the window.

no, i have no dual standards... i wasn't even on that other thread

Referral to a counsellor for anger issues????? WTF

Mumbling - I've been on MN a lot and I admit I made an assumption (actually, asked a question) on the basis of the fact that the OP was so angry.

Actually, I agree with izzy. There is an issue here.

If parents/guardians/carers are on the same page children cannot play one off against another or manipulate situations.

I'm relieved that your little boy has a parent that he can look to for comfort, and who recognises that shouting, swearing, and manhandling him is not conducive to his well-being.

Being sorry after an event is all very well, but unless your dh raises his game any remorse he may express is meaningless.

Ask your dh to consider how he would feel if a stranger treated your ds the way he has been doing.

Getting really angry with a 3 year old for being violent to his younger sibling does not work. How ever instinctive that reaction, it does not work, and makes absolutely no sense in attempting to set an example of self-control (sadly, have been there).

thisisyesterday my reference to dual standards was not about specific responders. It was a general observation that 2 posts describing similar behaviour by a parent received such markedly different responses.

WTF, indeed, coccyx. If a parent is in the habit of losing their temper to the extent that they shout and swear at their child, and that this has escalated to pushing the child with a degree of force that caused the child to fall over, would you maintain that the parent doesn't have any anger issues that need to be addressed?