To cut my hair into a style that DH does not like?

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I have long highlighted curly hair which I mainly wear in a ponytail as it is a bit frizzy and a pain to style every morning. It basically looks like this www.wildsound-filmmaking-feedback-events.com/images/sex_and_the_city_carrie.jpg.

I am sick of the length and sick of not being able to do anything with it. I also had a bad dye job recently and have awful roots and brassy hair so am planning on having it dyed back to it's natural dark blonde. I also want to go for something like this 4.bp.blogspot.com/-2HAv-nmX5KU/TbUOf_AhwqI/AAAAAAAAKyU/oJk3cEZOeL0/s1600/bob-haircut-with-bangs-Nichole+Richee+Long+Bob+Hairstyles.jpg

DH says he loves my long hair and hates fringes but I should do whatever makes me happy.

Hmmmm I may be questioning more whether I should make such a drastic change rather than caring what DH thinks

Bobs are really cute, curly or straight. But beware of fringes, they are very high maintenance

It's your hair though, do what you like. I could maybe see your DH's point of view if you were talking about shaving it all off, or going from bum length hair to a pixie cut. For example, I would prefer it if my DP didn't get a mullet, even though ultimately it's his choice.

But what you're suggesting doesn't sound too drastic.

I would never get my hair cut in a way that meant I had to straighten it every day. I especially wouldn't get curly hair cut into a shape that only looked good when it was straightened. But it's your choice.

I don't see anything wrong with discussing a potential haircut with people. DO all you "I would never consult DH"ers just go and get your hair cut into a completely new style without thinking about it first?

Yes, trillian, I normally do! I often only decide when I am sat in the chair at the hairdressers.

If you don't straighten, it will look something like this. I think that's pretty :)

You need a stylist who can deal with curls. Mine's thick & wavy with 'kicks'. Good stylists can cut layers that emphasise its natural ... exuberance, while controlling its tendency to turn upwards in the wrong places. I've just had an awful cut which, despite careful priming of the stylist, makes me look like a mop in a gale!

I'm using Very Curly products on it while it grows - may as well pretend I meant it to be like this

Here's a bob that has been spiral-curled. Love it.

That's what I was hoping garlicbutter! Hopefully I will become as beautiful as her too .

Thing with the fringe is - I am going for a side longish fringe I think and if I wear my hair straight I can have a side parting to compliment this. But when I have curls I have a centre parting so could part the fringe into bangs which if not too short can still work I think. Need to chat to the hairdresser I guess.....

Personally i would never get my haircut into a style i knew my DP hated. (i think it is important your partner fancy you and i have also told my DP if he grew his hair i would hate it).

But if he is not that bothered either way then i would do it. My exH outright banned me from getting a bob as his mum has always had one and he would find it creepy. My current DP has said he would hate a short cut.

I have decided on a Lob (which is an 'on trend' long bob apparently - according to a mag i read!) next cut too.

I have long straight dark hair and it is usually the thing which people like most about my appearance, so i can see if that was what attracted my OH to me in the first place then they would be disappointed it had changed.

Mullets are banned for both of us

I suppose the problem with that style with the fringe is that you will HAVE to straighten it. I find that a huge pain myself (do it once a year!) I know you say it will be quicker to straighten as it will be shorter but in my experience being shorter makes it more springey and harder to control, especially the fringe. When you straighten you hair does it stay straight? Mine goes frizzy in rain etc and then looks awful!

I have discovered a new, quick way to do mine which is to wash it at night, put curl cream (boots) on it and go to bed with wet hair. It is then all lovely defined curls in the morning. The next night I tie my hair around itself in a bun and it's fine the next morning too, so I get 2 days out of it. The third day can possibly be ponytail day. It means I don't have to wash it that much as it gets very, very dry.

It's your hair, do what you want with it and he will eventually get used to it. DH prefers my hair long, I've known this for over ten years. That didn't stop me from buzzing it all off in March.

He knew I was doing it but was still startled by it. Now he likes to sit and rub my velvety head

"DH says he loves my long hair and hates fringes but I should do whatever makes me happy."

Sorted!

Please, I do hope this isn't the hairstyle he hates. Sorry, couldn't resist