A mum swapped one of DS shoes with her DS'. AIBU to be suspicious and actually quite pissed off.

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Hi, I actually don't think I'm BU here in being suspicious and would like to gage others opinions.

Short version - hopefully!

DS and a boy in his class have same shoes and same size. DS shoes had name in sole but must have worn off - I didn't notice TBH.
Bought DS new trainers in Clarks at weekend as sale on and others year old and they are 1/2 size bigger than school shoes. DS then convinced school shoes wrong size so wears another pair of grey ones to school (Mon/Tues) and had worn wellies Friday and used plimsols so hadn't had his shoes.

DS goes to and from school with local wrap around care centre as I work. On Tuesday got a letter in home/school book from TA saying Mum says the children's shes have been mixed up and TA thinks as DS are too small that could have been because they're other child's. I returned a note saying school shoes fine (DS was wearing them that day having forgot about the too small bit!) and I didn't want them swapped without me seeing other pair first. TA returns note Weds saying fair enough perhaps we could look at sports day yesterday.

Anyway stupidly as I can't make sports day due to work I send in shoes and say to DS he can swap them over with the other pair - mainly as I felt I should be doing my bit.

So DS passes on message, the Mum comes in and looks at the shoes and decides that actually it's only 1 shoe tha'ts been swapped and I've got one that I'm convinced is in a worse condition than his was. I already had looked at the other shoe and thought it looked more scuffed than DS'.

AIBU to think this mum has got wind of DS shoes not fitting (which they do!), decided to concoct a story about them being swapped and then on examining the shoes picked the 2 best ones. DS teacher actually thinks its strange that it went from both swapped to one and only came to light 3 days after DS had last worn his shoes. She is looking into it.

you think after the responses on your thread that you may be being unreasonable ??

This reminds me of when I was at middle school and a girl and I had the same shoes. Mine were a week old and hers were slightly older and a lot more worn.

I found them after PE, one had been swapped because it was scuffed and one of the elastic bits had frayed and was near to snapping.
The teacher told me not to worry about it because the other little girl came from a family that couldnt afford many new things.

My friends swapped the shoe back during afternoon lessons and nothing more was said about it!

Nuts.

That is all.

My brother had his things 'swapped' and stolen a lot in primary school. It is quite common from what I know and I wouldn't be surprised if you were spot on OP.

*TA and other kid's mum were trying to get everyone's rightful shoes back, you concoct are conspiracy involving the theft of your little darling's precious shoes, to be swapped for an almost indistinguishable shoe which 'slightly more scuffed'. All this about a shoe that your kid had already grown out of. WTF?

Don't you have anything better to think about??*

rofl my thoughts but it is annoying from OP point of view but its the end of term let it go maybe?

I was nnoyed come October when my sons two named school jumpers at £13 a pop and his school fleece £15 went missing and the school dont care his names were in them I just got some from Tesco after that!

Don't see why all the faces. We had this happen at nursery this year. DD's coat aged 2-3 got mixed up with another girl's coat aged 3-4. DD's name had been in the coat but rubbed off. Even though it was about March and coming to the end of winter coat season, I still wanted DD's coat back, why wouldn't I?

My DS came home with the wrong jumper once. It belonged to a boy 6 inches shorter than him, that's a big size difference in yr1. I gave it back to the parent, who claimed that she didn't have DS's. I did point out that the jumper the boy had on was on the large size and got her to look at the name tag and it was DS's.

accidental swaps are one thing, and happen all the time

it's the level of overthinking and plain paranoia in OP's post, that is a bit

Indeed. I don't dispute that people do nick stuff, but the idea that the other mother had a shoe beauty pagent all to herself and deliberately picked the best 2, then lied about how many shoes had been accidentally swapped... nah. I think there is a storm brewing. And it's full moon tonight. MN is a bit mad this afternoon.

I love a good conspiracy theory as they are all out to get me but OP this is a bit much & YABU to be so bothered about this, this far into the school year. Yes, it is annoying when uniform gets lost, swapped or stolen but unfortunately it's a fact of school life & unless you can prove it was done maliciously you have to let it go. Is there more to this story with regard to the other mum than you've let on?

Well. It turns out I may not be BU.

DS teacher rang me this evening and said she spoke to TA and asked when the parent thought the shoes were swapped. It was Friday PE when DS didn't have his. She asked the parent who said it was 'definatley' Friday. She also asked the parent why she waited until Tuesday to mention it to which parent just shrugged. The teacher then asked her when she realised it was 1 shoe not both and the mum said when she saw them. Teacher also said to the mum it would be strange for 1 shoe to be swapped over as the 2 children change at tables the opposite end of class and the mum didn't directly answer. The teacher said the mum said my DS don't fit him anyway so what is the problem.

DS teacher is great and very down to earth and said she asked because although I'd been prepared to leave it she couldn't understand it herself and wanted clarification.

Anyway I have told DS lovely teacher to leave it - which I had already - as the concensus here on MN is I shouldn't worry about a £30 pair of shoes this close to end of term.

I am going to mark his new ones for the juniors in a specific way as well as with the normal name tags as I'm a LP and I can't afford for this to happen again.

Thanks for all the replies. And no I'm not mad - this has never happened before because I label everything - even DS socks.

Only if she was bonkers bringinghomethebacon, it was a size smaller, albeit in much better condition

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Gwendoline both boys coats were the same size. What no-one understands is how the shoes got swapped on a day DS didn't have his and it was only reported to school when they thought DS didn't fit. Mum even said this teacher so somehow she must have got this impression from her son.

Anyhow - I'm not making a fuss about it. Have learnt my lesson the hard and expensive way.

For those who asked, no there is no problem with the other mum, I don't really know her. Seen her a few times as she is involved in PTA (so school fates/discos etc) and her DS came to DS party last year.