DD kept in at school break due to not having PE kit

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This morning DD was charging about hunting for her PE kit and I told her it was probably in the festering pile in the corner of her room. It was and surprise suprise it was dirty. Cue lots of tears and moaning that I hadn't washed it.

I reminded her, yet again, that I would not be washing anything that wasn't in the laundry bin. I told her to wear it dirty or face the consequences at school. More tears, begging me to write a note saying she had hurt her leg and couldn't do PE. I refused.

I didn't think much more of it but arriving home from work a while ago DH is pissed off with me after DD has told him the story.

She's 10. Too harsh or reasonable at that age. Why should I spend ages rooting through her stuff trying to discover what needs washing because she is too lazy to take it off and move a few metres to put it in the basket.

If my 5yo and 9yo SN children can remember to bring thier kits home and put them straight in the wash basket then a 10yo can definatly manage to do it.

her fault intirely that she missed break and your DH is definatly being unreasonable.

My dc are 5 & 8 & both know that dirty clothes go in the washing basket as any clothes I find elsewhere will go in the bin. Same with toys not put away after play. Never had to throw anything away after my first bin bag expedition

Some 5 and 6 year olds forgot their PE kit so during PE they had to stay in the class room and do other things. That was fair enough. At 10 she is responsible for her own stuff getting washed though I think keeping her in at break was a bi harsh unless she has done it before.

I know who is being U here and it's your DH!

'She missed exercise in pe, so they punished her by removing her chance to run around at break?'

Or saunter slowly around the playground gossiping with her friends about the latest whatever?
Because the latter is more likely from observation.

when I was at school (in the 70's) forgetting kit was no excuse not to do PE. Our commandant games teacher just gave us a spare set (usually pretty old and tatty) and told us to make sure it was returned the next day, washed and ironed and told us to wash it by hand in the sink if our mum was too busy. The detention came if the kit wasn't returned in a satisfactorily clean and ironed state. Retrospectively it seems rather sensible.

Wow thanks for all the replies, didn't manage to get on here last night. I agree DH is a bit precious with his girls, very molly coddling and he thinks i can be a bit hard with them. He would have written a note excusing her from PE.

DD should have taken her kit dirty if she was that worried about it, better dirty than none at all. This morning her room looks lovely and there are no clothes on the floor! She also put a wash on this morning!! Miracles do happen, although there seems to be very little in there, probably just what she wants to wear tomorrow, but she is trying so I won't mention that just yet . I'm hoping she learnt her lesson yesterday.

Just wanted to add that I don't expect her to do all her washing all the time, I would just like her to put her dirty clothes into her laundry bin instead of leaving them on the floor for me to deal with.

FIRST OFFENCE? Too harsh. Being as detention is main punishment

"probably just what she wants to wear tomorrow,"

Or her PE kit?

YANBU

If it isn't in the laundry basket it isn't getting washed. This applies to everyone with the current exclusion of the baby.

Hmmm... YANBU, and neither are the school. Your dd and dh are. Hopefully after this she may have it ready next time. Then again, considering my 12 yo's organisational skills, maybe not!