To think my friend is BU.

[MugglesandLuna]

I have found a great deal for a last minute break to Spain next week for me and 5 friends. We are a group who go away on 'girls holidays' quite often (last time for a weekend to Benidorm in May).

I am a single parent and I have a 4 year old boy who can be a bit of a handful so I really need a break from him. I have asked a friend if she can look after him for the 4 days that I am away. She does have her plateful with three children of her own, 2 of who have SN. Plus her boys are at a different school to my DS so I agree it might be a bit difficult.

But she has said no. I really need a break and I thought that as she was a good friend she would help me out. I have told her I think she is being a bit of a bad friend. I dont know if she is jealous because we didnt ask her to come, but she is a bit of a home body and wouldnt want to come anyway.

She sounds psycho OP. No is a complete sentence.

MugglesandLuna yanbu I would have said no to , she is asking way to much of you

awk god love her!!!!! FUCK her!! if she needs a break from her child she should get his dad to mind him, or should have kept her legs crossed in the first place.

How would having coffee with you disappoint her? Dont you serve filter with a mint on the side?

She is, of course, being cheeky beyond belief. One for the recycling I think.

She´s not a friend, is she, she´s just a user.

So you would have had to take her son to school every day?

Did you have him in May?

YANBU.

That is NOT a friend. YANBU - You are right to say no!

Be glad she's been 'a bit hostile' - leaves you free to be hostile right back at her by ditching the bitch.

Seriously, she isn't a friend worth having [hshock]

Tell her to take a running jump.

she wasn't a friend in the first place so don't lose any sleep worrying about losing her friendship.

Tell her to fuck off

What a liberty to quote Catherine Tate's nan

What a horrid woman dump her

keep saying no and get new friends

Wow, glad I only found this thread after the big if a tad predictable reveal! I would've been rather

Well I still am, on your behalf. She sounds chaaaaarming.

I didnt have her in May - her parents had him but they are elderly and I think they found it quite hard.

I wouldnt mind a night but the school thing is an issue, plus I have so much on this week with review meetings, sports days and appointments.

Don't be a mug, that is what she is counting on.

Will you look after my DS and my two dogs please? I could do with a break too.

one weeks notice!

I think I would not be making any more coffee dates etc and finding a less selfish mate!

Well done for saying no!

You don't have to justify yourself to us. Or to her.
She didn't even invite you, having done this to you in May and then just assumed.
There is nobody in their right mind who would think she was justified in asking you again, and then to get huffy.

Tell her you'll do it if you are reimbursed for your trouble! Mates rates of course say £5 per hour for four days makes it £480 plus travel expenses oh and his board!

I think I would ask her when she was planning on looking after your three children for four days to give you a break - fairs fair after all.

What an absolute cow. YANBU.

Tell her you'l take him, if she'll take yours while you go away for a weekend

1 child for 4 days is about the same as 3 for two days surely?