to find it a tiny bit rude to be told "I'd rather have the cash, actually"?

[CharlotteBronteSaurus]

when I asked a friend what if there was anything in particular he'd like for his birthday? whilst like most of us, he's not minted, I am not aware of him being in such dire straights he'd need to put the cash towards a bill or something.

I just found it a bit, i don;t know, distasteful, and am now tempted to get him some sort of figurine in protest...

Sorry Lost, not a dig at you - have been a few threads where 'ill-breeding' has been mentioned - always have a Mrs Bouquet image in my head when the term is used.

Although Agent I am paying keen attention to this particular advice, enchanted woods - here I come.

Sadly I could find nothing on 'asking for cash instead of present'.

Maybe it really is beyond the pale.

YANBU!

Next time, don't ask.

And tbh, I'm the first who gives cash or vouchers for pressies. The IL's are hoarders to the point where it's a real problem. So for pressies I give them vouchers to the cinema or their fav restaurants or days out.

But I don't ask and don't respond to 'I want money,' well.

Wow. Anybody who can write a blog using the words "vulgar" and "insouciance" correctly has got my vote.

Although exactly where one is supposed to find enchanted woods, spooky ruins or the like in the middle of a town, which is where most people live, is a little beyond me...

(Agent, it's for people like you that disinfectant handwash was invented. OHGODOHGODOHGOD yewwwwwwww catsbumouth)

Off the wooden hill to Bedfordshire for me... as nanny used to say!

Amongst the good advice I especially like 'Look at the antics of other parents with incomprehension and distaste - after all, competitive party-giving is irredeemably vulgar' and just know I would fit right in on the vulgarity judging scale

sigh. up said hill, natch.

(totally pissed on my own firework there. My work here is done....)

YANBU. Cash is only appropriate as a gift to children, and then only on the understanding it's going straight into the building society book. Vouchers for a shop you know they like the moment they're old enough to go to town by themselves.

I frequently look at the antics of other parents with incomprehension & distaste.

'tis my special skill.

what a total peasant your friends is OP.

Lucky you to posess such a gift spiders, I have to work at it and practice my cats bum mouth in the mirror after I've done my teeth of an evening.

I've found it most effective in the post office and supermarket.

My six year old nephew told his nan not to worry about a birthday present as she could just give him cash for his birthday and he could pick something out at toys r us - after being asked what he wanted I should add, he isn't that rude! I think he thought he was being 'helpful'

However, from an adult? just plain rude

Cat's bum mouth is not neccessary, I find a raised eyebrow usualy does the trick.