To wonder how many times those with young children have sex?

[Angel786]

My baby is under 1, I had a third degree tear and have been q tired / scared to have sex for a while.

As an aside, I also think most ppl who say their baby sleeps through the night are lying ...

Know what you ean Neptune, told the dpc about the AF and they kept saying I was dehydrated but have been drinking loads of water

I'm having a section this time at 39 weeks.

we have 4 dcs oldest 6 youngest 11 months we have sex maybe a once a month but clearly plenty for me to get pg with dc5

DS just turned 1... definitely have had sex fewer than ten times since he was born. Too tired, little libido, and feel fat and unsexy :( Know we'll get it back though - it's been great when it's happened!

my youngest is 3 we have sex on average about 10 times a week. its tailed off a little since i found out i am pregnant tiredness, sickness but still try to have sex at least once a day.

Wow! I need some of spooks sex drive.

Georgimama was it difficult persuading hospital re the c section? I've heard the nhs have a limited number of c sections they can do so try try to talk ypubout of it? Not sure I could go through it all again otherwise!

10 times a WEEK?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Really?!?! Shit! that's a lot! Even when we first met that would have been a good week! When do you have the TIME???

DC4 was born in March and we average 2/3 sessions a week.

She has just started sleeping 7 -7 but I need that to make up for the fact that DC2 who is 5 rarely sleeps through (and she is never off my breast in the day!)

Not at all. The midwife actually suggested it, I initially refused and then changed my mind. I had discussion with a registrar last week and she booked me in - she said that after a third degree tear it was down to maternal choice and they weren't going to attempt to persuade anyone either way. I've never heard of c sections being rationed.

I had a 4th degree tear with firstborn, due to pushing before I was ready in a misguided attempt to hurry labour... the surgeons stitched me up too tightly and for the first year after her birth it was painful to make love. I lost my sex drive totally. I think it wasn't until pregnant with no.2 that I got it back again... and I had c-sections with the next two babies as I was told a natural birth could cause tearing next to the scar tissue, which could lead to permanent seepage and unrepairable damage... no thanks!

When I had a child under 6 months old, my dh would have been lucky to have had sex once a month!

After 6 months old, but under 18 months old, the sleep became a bit better but I was still knackered, I reckon we had sex about twice every three weeks.

Once all our children were over 18 months I would say that once or twice a week was normal for us.

DS is ten months old. Had sex twice about two months ago (must have been something funny in the water) and diddly-squat other than that since birth.

Personally don't find others' tales of much comfort. It's not enough for me, and you need to decide whether or not it's enough for you.

We have 4 children. We both work and have the usual other commitments.
We try and squeeze it in when ever we can. So to speak. E.g when older ones at school, baby asleep. Or hide somewhere and do it. Usually we do it at least once every two days.
Don't know if this is directly related but my housework is never 100% done.

Love the idea of hiding to do it !

We try and do it once a week at least, sometimes if we're up in middle of night with twins (DSs, identical, 11 months) and to get us back to sleep :) :)

I had a normal delivery with the twins as had a normal delivery with DD1. Had episiotomy with her, so took months to get back into swing of things (so to speak).

this time, was no bother getting back! In fact, sex is great to realise tension of busy day, to reestablish closeness and to feel young and desirable after being in dressing gown all day minding young children!

:)