AIBU to think that mums should take their young children into female changing rooms and dads into male changing rooms...

[MimiSam]

at swimming pools? When i take my dc for swimming lessons, a mum with 2 boys aged about 5 and 3 goes into the male changing room with them and a dad takes his 5 year old daughter into the female changing room (these parents don't swim themselves, although others do). There are older children and adults getting changed in these small-ish communal changing areas. I think it's odd.. . No one else does it. What do people think?

YANBU and you know it. You go where the adult belongs and the children follow. At what age they can if necessary go alone - that's another issue.

So is the point at which I as a man can think that "that girl is too old to be around while I am in a state of undress" - About seven I think.

YANBU

Maybe its just my pool but there's a lot of women who aren't shy about about stripping off infront of others, they prob wouldn't be too happy if a man walked in.

More pools/leisure centres need to update and either have unisex rooms or have more family rooms.

OP, are there no family changing rooms at this pool?

Very odd behaviour I think.

But Highlander - seriously! You wouldn't let 10 yo get changed by themselves! What on earth are you going to do when they are too old to come in the ladies changing room with you?

If the dad really was worried about other men perving on his DD, surely he could put her cossie on at home, underneath her clothes, then have her get changed in a toilet cubicle, in the mens changing rooms, before they leave? Ditto the mum with her sons... Never mind reporting it to reception, I'd be having a word in his ear myself! The only reason I wouldn't address the mum is because she's in the mens changing rooms... it's up to them to complain to her if they see fit, if they don't mind, it would be none of my business.

This is hilarious. Why would any adult ever think it's ok to go in the opposite gender changing room? And two of them from different families at the same swimming session ?

I really cannot believe that nobody has said anything to them yet. If I was chasing after DS standing with my kit off in the ladies changing room and found a bloke in there I'd have plenty to say there and then!

I'd report a grown man in the female changing room shortly after telling him to get out.

Prissy? Pre-teen/teen girls can have a lot of issues around their bodies, they are still children, not prisses.

If you're that concerned about people perving on your child, then buy a towelling cover up to throw over them after exiting the pool and take them straight home.