Try to keep it short. My 40th birthday approaches and we are thinking of throwing a party for it, with around 60 guests. We don't live in the UK so some of my close family will come over here for the party. However, I am not sure what to do about FIL and MIL. We get along ok, but we are not bosom buddies at all. I tolerate them, they are nice people but to be honest I don't feel comfortable with htem, never have and always have felt they don't really like me or approve of me for some reason. They are snobbish and very far up their own bums and have a habit of looking down on people.
For reasons above, I don't want to ask them to my 40th. They would have to travel for it, and they would. In fact, the last party we had they came over for it and it kind of ruined the weekend for me.
Also, my parents don't really get along with them so my parents will definitely not come if they know in laws will be here too.
But I just feel guilty and would feel awful if they find out we've thrown this big party and not invited them. They are fairly pleasant to me and make me feel welcome in their home but we never really go beyond pleasantries really.
DH doesn't mind if I don't invite them but hten I can't invite his siblings either which I don't want as they are quite good fun.
I feel in a quandry. Should I just invite them and hope they don't turn up or is that bu?