I should be bigger than this, I really should but I still feel a bit hurt by it all.
A bit of the back story, at university there were ten of us - five boys, five girls - who were really close, we always went out together, studied together, you get the picture. Obviously after uni we all sort of drifted apart a bit but still keep in contact sporodically through facebook etc...
Anyway three of these friends have got married in the past few months, two of them to each other, one to someone new. I never expected to be invited, I mean, we don't really see each other or talk much, I was more than happy to congratulate them via email and have a nosey at the pictures.
After the first wedding (of the couple of friends if that makes sense), I did have a peak at the photos and saw that all of our friends were there with their partners, I was the only one not invited. I was a bit hurt but sort of put it out of my mind. However, the other wedding was this weekend and again, all of the group except me is there, with partners plus a couple of extra people who we lived with in our first year.
And I'm hurt. I mean, why wasn't I invited when all the others were?
Please don't misunderstand me - I wasn't expecting an invite and would have been surprised if I had received one as we aren't close anymore but I also know that the others aren't any 'closer'. I still speak regularly to one of them and she was surprised to have received an invite to either as, in her own words, 'We really don't speak any more, we aren't even friends on facebook or friends reunited'.
Am I being unreasonable to feel a bit left out and hurt that I was excluded?
I know that weddings are difficult and a bit of a minefield with guests but it just seems that they have sat there and deliberately left me off a list.