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WIBU to take him with us?

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MummyTigger · 11/07/2011 16:17

Ok, so since our local supermarket has decided to sell rugby tickets on a buy-one-get-one-free basis, DP and I have EXCEPTIONALLY good seats to Wales V Argentina on August 20th.

DP's parents are also going - sitting in a different area - meaning that the baby I'm currently incubating would either have to be looked after by my parents (which would be fine) or to come with us.

Am I being completely unreasonable in taking what is likely to be a one-month-old baby to a rugby match? Have specifically invested in a 4-position carrier so I can BF with ease, and it also gives us the opportunity to put him in his rugby romper suit that my future MIL invested in.

DP totally agrees with me and thinks it would be a great few hours out with the family. What do the Mumsnetters think? Beginning to rely on you all for advice quite a lot!

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Morloth · 12/07/2011 05:15

Sounds fine to me, I would go for a nice upright sling though so baby is snuggled up nice and securely.

Possibly also baby earmuffs, but probably a nice thick hat would work as well.

My babies were still mostly sleeping at a month old and wouldn't give a fuck where we were as long as my boobs were present.

Morloth · 12/07/2011 05:17

Also you are probably not going to feel up too much yourself, so make it as easy as possible. Get a cab or drive rather than dealing with public transport, take a picnic or book a restaurant that sort of thing to smooth the day out.

seeker · 12/07/2011 05:52

Those people who are saying that the baby is too young and similar sentiments - can I as why?

iscream · 12/07/2011 05:57

Well, is there any danger of over zealous fans causing any ruckus, that could be harmful to a newborn? That would be my concern. I went to a Genesis concert when my ds1 was a month old. But I left ds1 with my mother.

TheHumanCatapult · 12/07/2011 05:57

I would say long as you feel up to it in yourself, baby be fine .Just have a good sling

www.amazon.co.uk/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=baby+ear+defenders&tag=googhydr-21&index=aps&hvadid=8522499305&ref=pd_sl_1jiiajvwq4_e

TheHumanCatapult · 12/07/2011 06:00

iscream

Rugby tendsto be so muc better behaviourthan football .My youngest has been going for a long time .

Last time we was struggling to get his chair to our seats .Fans spotted problem and came over and carried him and his chair to our spaces .

JeelyPiece · 12/07/2011 06:12

I can see possible issues with feeding - I was breastfeeding DS fairly constantly at that point and wouldn't have been too physically comfortable doing it somewhere like that.

allhailtheaubergine · 12/07/2011 06:24

As others have said, it really does depend on you and the baby.

I could never have done this with my firstborn. I was still lying at home bleeding and weeping with nipples so sore I screamed when she latched on and sobbed through every feed.

With my second born it was a totally different story - I was up and about in days with him strapped to my chest. Feeding was a dream. I felt fine. Would have thoroughly enjoyed a day out at 4 weeks old, and he would have fed or dozed on the boob throughout the match.

Now expecting my 3rd and know enough to know I can't plan on how it will go :)

ThumbsNoseAtSnapewitch · 12/07/2011 06:32

Play it by ear. if you're well enough and baby is fine, give it a go but definitely have the ear-defenders (sudden noises even at that age can shock them and they'll cry) and have an exit strategy planned.

IF you go and he gets distressed, you will have to be prepared to leave with him and go and sit in a café or something until the game is over, sorry. You can take a chance that he'll be fine (and he might be) but if he demonstrably ISN'T fine then you have to remove him.

PadmeHum · 12/07/2011 07:08

One month old in a crowded stadium??? No way.

But that's coming from me, who nearly lost my daugther to RSV Bronchiolitis - a common, heavy cold passed on from children and other adults. Having been through that experience, I would never, ever take an unvaccinated newborn into a crowded situation ever again.

Too many people, too much noise, too stressful whipping tits out in front of a gazillion people - but that's just me.

If you are comfortable with all of those things - go for it!

2rebecca · 12/07/2011 07:59

I wouldn't have thought it would be a fun experience for either you or the baby, or the people sitting near you when the baby starts crying.

lubberlich · 12/07/2011 08:48

When I was 4 weeks old my parents took me travelling half way across the globe. So I am sure you and baby will be fine. Ear defenders would be a MUST though.
Personally I can't imagine anything I'd want to do less with a newborn but that's just me.

Haudyerwheesht · 12/07/2011 08:59

Depends.

With ds I felt great but he fed allllll the time and feeding was all about off and on and fidgeting trying to get the latch right. He didn't sleep. Ever.

When dd was little we could take her anywhere at all. She slept, woke, fed, slept and so on all the time. I felt like I'd been run over a few times though (despite her sleeping through vvv early)

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MummyTigger · 12/07/2011 11:40

www.preciouslittleone.com/product-information/28/16811/red-kite-carry-me-4-way-baby-carrier/

Hi all! Hope everyone's having a good morning. I'm just off out to my local pool but thought I'd check back in here.

That link up there is the carrier I've opted for - it's 4-way so I can adjust it to give him feeds. We'd be driving in to town and there are plenty of family-friendly restaurants and cafés that I can escape to if everything gets too rowdy. I've had a nose around for ear defenders/hats with flaps and I just need to pick one to buy.

I'll let you all know how I get on though - if I don't feel up to it then I definitely won't go, but fingers crossed I'll be able to make it. I think DP is so agreeable and is pushing me to take baby with us because he wants to have as many opportunities to try out his new camera as possible. Men and their toys!! ;)

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Sirzy · 12/07/2011 11:45

I not sure. I am a massive rugby fan and been taking Ds who is 19 months old to quiet games since he was a few months old. I wouldn't take him to a big game though personally for a good few years.

At a recent big -club level - game I attend was a family with a 7 week old. The baby screamed every time there was a loud noise. He also didn't seem overly keen on being jiggled about when his dad was jumping up and down!

Although it's not something I would do I think you need to wait to see what type of baby you have before deciding.

Personally as much as I love my rugby if I didnt have a babysitter I would just stay at home!

NestaFiesta · 12/07/2011 12:20

A day at the rugby is fantastic. A day at the rugby with a 4 week old is VERY different. This is your first baby and you may be underestimating the effect of having a baby on your life. I would say no to taking the baby personally, and certainly not without ear defenders. You will also inhibit the others around you who have come for a good old yell and sing who will notice the baby and feel they can't yell and sing.

When I had my DS1 I ended up having an unplanned emergency C section as he was nearly 11lbs. The furthest I took him at 4 weeks was the changing mat. I'm just saying you may very well change your mind and rugby tickets may not seem so significant in a few weeks time.

Rowgtfc72 · 12/07/2011 13:58

Took dd to local football ground at six weeks and to Wembly at six months. Forward planning, thats all I can say.We took plenty of wipes ,milk and distractions. First game she slept through , second game she watched. Most importantly, suss out baby change facilities BEFORE you need them! Good luck .

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