No confidence to go out without husband

[flower24]

Just a little moan, sorry.
Since iv had my daughter 7.5mo my husband and i cant go out together as one of us has to stay at home with her. Cant be left for long with babysitter as she wakes often at night and is difficult to settle.
So, every weekend we have the discussion of whose going out/ whose staying in, what's going on... and what always happens is that i say you go out, have fun il stay in. The thing is i haven't got the confidence to go on my own but husband has. plus most things involve going out with people who are getting drunk and doing things that really require you to be drunk to enjoy- night clubs, parties etc. and i just don't want to drink now iv got dd. So anyway, i really want him to go but then end up all upset that Im spending another night in on my own while it seems everyone else is off having fun.

Im 25 and the first of my friends to have a baby so people don't do the sorts of things that i could join in with and im too shy to arrange things myself. just seem to spend every weekend crying about this and i hate that as iv got a lovely life and amazing daughter and i love my husband.

sound pretty pathetic I know, sorry for long post.

What to do?

we do the stay in, watch tv, hav the odd glass of wine thing all week, and always go out 4 meals with dd too but need a change cum wkend.
I do have problems in other areas, like at work (on mat leave at mo) i avoid the staff room coz find myself going bright red randomly wen ppl talk to me, also struggle eating infront of certain ppl (hang up frm teenage eating disorder years). BUT id got gud at facing things and dint let it stop me, got to a point of actualy being the loud confident one of the group. Seen gp before but wot can they do? Offer anti-ds which make no differance. Its just my personality i think. Got out of practice at fighting the shyness n now its hard to start agen. Must stop being a wimp. Loved the hibernation with newborn bit-want that back.

Forgive me, but I think the issue is anxiety more than anything.
Know someone who is being treated for this with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. May be worth another chat with GP?

yup you sound like you need help with general anxiety and are using your baby as a good way of avoiding anxious situations

You need to sort it out before it gets worse..go to your gp and ask for help.I have seen this develop into agoraphobia.
Don't beat yourself up about it,your feelings are real and they are affecting your life. Your GP will not think you are a time waster.
Good Luck